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If You Can't Say "YES!" To These 2 Questions, Break Up With Them NOW?
 
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“Wondering When to Breakup 2 Questions to Ask Yourself” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I'm going to talk about when to break up with someone. Now a caveat no one can tell you when to break up with somebody; this is such an internal and subjective experience that you've got to be the one who ultimately makes the final call because no one has the answer for you. In this video, I will give you a couple questions that you can ask yourself that will help reveal and uncover your truth so you can move along in the process and get out of this place of questioning and wondering, whether or not you should stay or whether you should leave. Sometimes when you're in a relationship, it can be easy to know when to leave a relationship because something the person is doing is in direct violation of a value that you hold may it be physical abuse, infidelity, or some type of addiction or something that they're doing that you just are not going to live with and it's cut and dry. But there's other times when you're in a relationship we're just not sure if you love the person. You're not sure if the fights are worth it. So the first question that I have for you that you can ask yourself to begin to unwrap this and find out whether or not you should go or whether you should stay is one that was inspired by a friend of mine who had recently got out of a 10-year relationship. Now after the relationship, she had felt a mix of emotions. Everything from extreme loss and regret to profound freedom and just knowing that it was right decision. When I asked her, how did you get to this conclusion that it was the right decision and finally pull the trigger to break up? She said a number of different things but one question she asked herself in particular I want to share with you. The question was this, “if this relationship had only lasted say six months to a year and I've been in it and it had this exact same dynamic would I stay in it?” [01:52] What that question does… the power that question is it allows you to really look at what you need presently. What they need presently. What the dynamic of you're currently living in to and recently have been living in to without muddying up all of the investment of time and energy that got you to this place. There is a term in poker called “Pot Heavy” where someone's got a bad hand and rather than fold and exit the game they stay in it and they keep anting in because they've already put so much money in the pot. They don't want to cut their losses and back away. So what this question does is it allows you to avoid that and to take a realistic inventory of where you're at in the relationship and what the last couple months or last year is actually looked like. The next question is one that I use with clients in the past and I've also used with myself to determine whether or not I should be in something or whether I should move on and the question is this, “If you woke up tomorrow morning and let's pretend that you were now single, and he didn't have to go through the break-up, you didn't have to go through hurting the person, who didn't have to go through all of the mess and emotion that comes with breaking up with them, would you actively pursue getting back together with him? Would you actively pursue dating that person again and starting over?” [03:10] Now what this does is it helps you get to the core of what is stopping you from breaking up. So that question should help you get a little more clarity as to why you're staying in it and really what matters. So those are the two questions that you can ask yourself and again you don't know one actually has the truth for you about whether or not you should leave or whether you should go. This is completely up to you. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/certifiedcoachn ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/KNPDUYTqUno
Views: 597593 Clayton Olson Coaching
Make Your Man Feel Emotionally Safe And Unlock His Heart
 
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“Make Your Man Feel Emotionally Safe And Unlock His Heart” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Download the 5 Secrets to Unlock his Heart: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit In this video, Clayton talks about the importance of being emotionally safe to a man in a relationship. Mike: So, Clayton let's move on to ask, what is “ask?” Clayton: Yes, as is the man needs to feel safe. And when I say safe if she's got a black belt in Taekwondo that's great but that's not what I'm talking about. Emotionally safe. Emotionally safe. A man needs to feel safe that he can express his truth to her; that he can express when he's feeling disappointed; that he can express when he's feeling weak; he can express when he's feeling inadequate like he's failing maybe at his work. Because Burna Brown writes about vulnerability and she got a quote I’m not going to say it exactly but she says something to the effect of, “we connect not through our strength but that we connect through our weaknesses and the more safe and man feels in the relationship, the more she will feel free to bring those weaknesses, which every man has, you can bring all those witnesses to the relationship. And those accepted by the woman which then when she's able to accept him in his weakest moment, he can begin to accept himself in his weakest moment because he's got a model for it.” And ironically that's exactly what – and I'm not saying that women should be a man therapist or a coach necessarily but this is why people get coaching and therapy sometimes. It’s because there's parts of themselves that they haven't accepted when they have someone else that able to sit across from them and witness them in a certain state and accept them just the way they are the shields, block and the looping thoughts you have in your mind of not being able to love yourself begins to deteriorate and fall away. And that's the power of relationship is that a man can begin to accept himself more in the relationship with her and which makes me feel more love, and when he feels more love for himself when he's with you, you become irreplaceable. So, that's the importance of safety and how a woman can make a man feel safe is by actually going first emotionally; by being able to have the courage to express her weak side in the relationship. Because you see a woman has more practice with the expression of emotion than a man does and because of that there's a level of emotional mastery that she's closer than a man and a man may need a model for that and you need to know that it's okay so that's a way that I mean a woman can begin to lead in the realm of emotions and foster this environment for him to feel safe. This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/mDR9uh5Yp_Q
Views: 103686 Clayton Olson Coaching
3 Female Magnetic Mindsets That Drive Men Wild
 
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“3 Female Magnetic Mindsets That Drive Men Wild” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Female-Mindsets-3-Keys-To-Attract-Keep-A-High-Quality-Man Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack are going to talk about three female magnetic mindsets that drive men wild. [04:08] FEMALE MINDSET 1: Adopt a Perspective of Beauty There's something potent that a woman can give a man when she moves through life and she sees her life as beautiful. She's able to point out things that may be mundane, and she's able to see the beauty and the art in it. Guys tend to see things black and white. They benefit from just the depth and color that a woman's connection with the beauty can bring. Men are often logical, rational, focused on getting things done, mechanistic and quite performative. The feminine has this ability to almost just open other worlds to most men that it's very hard for them to access themselves. When a man gets into a relationship with you, what he's really getting into a relationship with is your perspective. [02:34] FEMALE MINDSET 2: Claim WHO YOU Are It’s about claiming your authenticity. Often in the dating world, you're getting advice like do this, say this, text this. However, that may not be about you actually magnifying that which is strong in you. The mindset that you are enough and that you can own your own uniqueness, and embody that, and bring that unashamedly, you notice the power, the beauty the truth of that, that's incredibly attractive to the right man. The more you own that, the more you are going to magnetize the right man to be in relationship with. [04:09] FEMALE MINDSET 3: Befriend Loneliness Begin to build a friendship, begin to create loneliness and being alone as an ally and a friend in your life. This might sound easier said than done, but the more that you can befriend your own loneliness, the more that you can sit with it, the more that you can be in rapport with you the experience of being single, the more intentional, the more present you can be when dating a man. What often happens with women Clayton and Jack coached is in the beginning, what often has them going after a guy, searching and trying to chase down a relationship is that they've got this loneliness that's nipping at their heels. What this does? It splits their conscious and attention to getting into a relationship, being attracted to a guy because they're running from something, rather than it being an authentic desire. This video is an invitation. It's invitation to start seeing the subtle and deep value you offer the world, not only men. Nobody has to adopt these mindsets, but we encourage you to flirt with them, try them on, and see how they feel. If you're interested in going deeper, please join us for this Free Webinar and learn to unlock even more of your precious, vibrant self in relationship and beyond: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Female-Mindsets-3-Keys-To-Attract-Keep-A-High-Quality-Man In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/DhFliCFcENc
Views: 186804 Clayton Olson Coaching
5 Unusual Things Men Need To Feel From You
 
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“5 Things Men Need To Feel From You” Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session For a full breakdown of each get the free guide here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ A man needs to feel - Challenged - Challenged in the sense that he can detect and witness your value. Awe - In the sense he gets to experience a greater piece of himself through your expression of emotion. Respect - Respect for you and respect from you. This is created through healthy boundaries and acknowledgement of what he is standing for in life. Desire - Desire for you and desired. This is created through the play of opposites. The positive tension built between you through a healthy individualized self. Safe (emotionally) - Your vulnerability is key here. By you going first, you give him permission to trust you and in turn, reveal parts of himself he has not yet accepted. For a full breakdown of each get the free guide here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/ALaw_27v8sI
Views: 255840 Clayton Olson Coaching
Crack Open His Heart Using Vulnerability In Your Relationships
 
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“The Power of Vulnerability In Your Relationships” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video I'm going to talk about one way to create deep intimacy and long-lasting trust, loyalty and devotion with your partner. The concept is this: your vulnerability creates the opportunity for your partner to be their best self in the relationship. Here's what I mean, has any of your friends ever told you a secret about them and you promise not to share it? Probably. And how did it feel when that person revealed something that was really close to their heart and trusted you with that not to tell anybody? Did you feel honored? Did you feel respected? Did you feel like there was a closer bond that you had suddenly with that person? Probably. In that place where the person has trusted you with something that's close to their heart, you have the opportunity to either be someone that breaks your commitment or someone that stands and integrity in alignment with the commitment. And if they didn't give you that secret, if they didn't trust you with that secret, you actually wouldn't have the opportunity to choose integrity. So by them revealing something close to their heart, they are giving you a gift for the two of you to become closer; for the two of you to have a deeper bond and deeper intimacy and a stronger connection. Now there's another way that we can be vulnerable and share things that are close to our hearts in relationships. And one of the most common is this, let's pretend that your boyfriend or girlfriend miss an important date like an anniversary. Okay now once that anniversary is missed, you might be really angry and pissed off at your boyfriend for not giving you a gift or a card or something like that and see if you share the anger with him. And yes that is one form of vulnerability probably better than trying to play it cool like you're not pissed off and pull back and stuff it and hope that it goes away when really it's just festering underneath then explodes later on the relationship. But there's a deeper way to share something even close to your heart. And David Deida who is this author on intimacy and Tantra says this in such a wonderful fashion. He says that, “When we experience something from our partners that we don't like there's a primary emotion and there's a secondary emotion. And in the case of your partner missing an anniversary you might think it pisses you off but underneath that if we just peel it back what's really there, what's the primary emotion, it might be hurt, it might be this feeling of that you're not lovable or that you're not significant to your partner.” And see that is so tender that we think to share that with our partner. We might give them all the power. We might come off like we're needy. We might come off like we're weak and God forbid we come off like four weeks to our partner so we crusted over with anger and then we share that. The problem is it's not actually being vulnerable if it comes off like an attack to your partner. So the way to be vulnerable is to actually share the primary emotion which is the hurt and the feeling insignificant because when you do that you are bearing a piece of your heart to your partner for them to see. And what it does is it gives them a very clear reflection of the impact that they and their actions are having on you and then they get the opportunity to see themselves more clearly. And they can come into alignment and they can apologize and they can make something that was wrong, right? Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: https://youtu.be/-HTJc20CZSA ➜ https://youtu.be/-HTJc20CZSA
Views: 72461 Clayton Olson Coaching
Say THIS When He Disappears or Pulls Away
 
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Register for the Free Webinar: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Men-Disappear-3-keys-webinar-registration Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Mike is offering the free e book: How to Find a High Quality Men in 3 Easy Steps AND The Main Reason You Have Been Choosing The Wrong Men – Click Link For Immediate Access → http://www.ezdatingcoach.com “What to Do When He Disappears or Pulls Away” DOWNLOAD FOR FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton discusses about specific steps on what a woman should do when her man pull away or disappear in the middle of their dating relationship. Mike: What should women do when he’s not taxing or not calling? What is her best plan of action? Clayton: It is context-dependent. It depends on when it really happens within the interaction. If it happens in the beginning, [if] the guy disappears, she has to really take an inventory about whether or not they really have a connection. If they if they really did have a connection and suddenly he drops off, it is important to have an innocent until proven guilty mindset, right. So rather than assuming that this guy has lost interest and he doesn't want anything to do with her anymore, and suddenly her defenses go up and she responds from that place – she responds in the place of mainly genuine curiosity about what happened if he's okay. She hasn’t seen her a bit. Maybe even some vulnerability. You know, “Hey I really enjoyed talking with you and I’m wondering what happened?” And that is okay to do. Being able to have [or] express your emotions rather than hide behind some type of defense, is a way that we, as people, are able to eliminate the game plane that naturally comes up in the dating world. Games comes as a result of one or both parties not being vulnerable with where they're at. So, that's one way to initiate and possibly rekindle the connection if the guy is not texting. If he doesn't respond or his response is lackluster at that point, I don't encourage women to pursue it at that point any further. But really to move on to the next one because the only thing that’s going to happen when she begins to pursue is she moves even more into the masculine role he, moves more into the receptive role and it just ends up being a waste of time more times than not. Mike: Awesome I love that. Clayton: If it happens later in a relationship if they actually have got a connection and the guy pulls away, again an innocent until proven guilty mindset. They pull away because the emotions that they might be feeling within the connection can get so intense that in my words that it almost can short-circuit the guy’s the neurology. And in order for him to reset, he's got to pull away. In order for him to get respective and see what actually happens, he find himself, he finds his center and build off the desire and then come back in. And who the woman is in the face of the man pulling away, how the woman shows up, how she decides to react to him pulling away, communicate so much to him about her value, about her, [about] how she sees herself and her self-esteem. Mike: Wow that was a phenomenal and that my favorite answer in all of my interviews. I loved every second of that. Ladies that was it… that was it. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkUQtq2SqrY
Views: 640201 Clayton Olson Coaching
5 Little Mistakes That Make Men Pull Away
 
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REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-little-mistakes-3-keys-webinar-registration Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session “5 Little Things You're Doing That Make Men Pull Away” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Do you feel like you’re consistently chasing men when you’re dating? Do you feel like after 3 or 4 dates, it’s just a repeating pattern that men pull away? In this video, I am going talk about why men pull away in the early stages of dating. I am going to digest a concept that has come to my attention after seeing this happen to my clients over and over again. This is confusing because: a. The guy you’re dating can’t articulate what’s happening b. They don’t want to hurt your feelings c. They don’t care enough or aren’t invested in you to give you feedback [01:10] The concept that is directly related to why men pull away is “Filling the Space.” [01:18] Filling the space is equal to psychological bad breath - you are consistently filling the space over and over again. How do you end up the space and not even noticing it? #1: Do you notice yourself texting more frequently than him? [02:30] Rule of thumb: Try to take things equal and reciprocal. #2: Volume of text. Are you sending longer texts to him than he to you? [02:47] #3: Talking a lot in in a conversation. [03:29] #4: If you’re using sexuality to get me hooked, you are filling the space with your sexuality but it puts him in a role that’s being receptive. [04:10] #5: Actively trying to size him up. [05:09] Allow the time to get to know who he is and his character, then there is nothing more attractive to a guy than a woman who communicate his uniqueness. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/9xdXgAs6jdI
Views: 237948 Clayton Olson Coaching
He's Emotionally Unavailable?  Get Clear With Him...
 
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“He's Emotionally Unavailable - Get Clear with Him” FREE “5 Secrets to Make Him Commit” << http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I'm going to answer a customer question that came in, that once again, I think the answer is going to give some clarity to many other women who are in a similar situation with a guy that they've just met or had been dating for a while. This question is from a gal we're going to just call her “Kim” for anonymity sake, she says: “Dear Clayton, thank you very much for your message. I'm watching all your movies. I really appreciate it. I got a question about what to do on how to convince a man? We've known each other for more than 3 years to be with me and start a relationship. The man is a doctor and extremely intelligent and he is possibly autistic. I can see him once or twice per month because he said “I'm getting attached and he has nothing to give me.” He is without fearing. No heart. No emotions. He said I am different than other women but he is like a wild animal and doesn't want to hurt me. I respect him so much and he knows that but I still wish to see him more often. What do I do?” A lot of women who are dating a guy and who are in pseudo-relationship with a guy without any real hard boundaries or agreements. They're holding onto it because they are putting the connection above the integrity of their heart. They’re falling in love with the potential of what it could turn into rather than really staying in the reality of what it is. It’s a great waste of time because you’re picking guys who are emotionally unavailable. When a guy says that he's not ready for a relationship and you are feeling like you are very invested in the interaction, you're invested in the connection, and the guy saying to that “he is not good at relationship, he feels like a wild animal, he doesn't want to hurt you,” believe him. There's no amount of convincing at this point that is going to move this guy from feeling the way that he's feeling into suddenly believing in himself that he can be good at relationship. There's something going on within him that is causing him to hesitate. And if you stay in that connection with him and you compromise yourself because you are hoping that he will change for you. At this point, it would be best to step back. And I would I would say that that is the best thing to do is to step back from this and to really collect yourself and determine that and to ask yourself if this is all that he can give and this is all that he will possibly ever give is this enough for me? And if the answer's NO you've got to walk away. And it's not for punishing him. It's not for teaching him a lesson but rather it's for you to take a stand for what is most important to you, what it is that you desire most from this guy. And in doing so the impact is that: 1. He gets to see the impact that he is having and that his way of being is having on someone that perhaps he does have a real connection with, that his way of being may very well push them out of his life, 2. It just communicates that you're a woman of value, that you are not willing to settle. And, walking away doesn't mean giving this guy an ultimatum. It doesn't mean saying to him, “Hey I'm going to leave if you're not willing to step up,” because then that is you trying to manipulate him or trying to get him to move rather than taking a stand for yourself. Taking a stand for yourself in this is simply just saying, “Okay I'm going to have to back off because I realized that I'm not going to be able to respect myself if I stay in this situation I'm not going to I'm not respecting my heart. If I stay in the situation and which were not on the same page,” and then actually backing away. Don’t forget to download my FREE “5 Secrets to Make Him Commit” << http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit This eBook will walk you through getting the 5 secrets to unlock his heart without manipulation, lies or playing games. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/Rl_z6LF2SLg
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5 Bizarre Signs He Likes You? Unusual Signs A Guy Likes You
 
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REGISTER FOR THE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-biz-3-keys Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I’m going to talk about 5 very unusual signs a guy likes you. Now the reason this is 5 unusual signs a guy likes you is because rather than talk about the obvious signs he really likes you, like him maybe buying you dinner or initiating or holding your hand, I want to talk about the things that often go unnoticed. A lot of the female clients that I work with get confused because they're really into the guy and they're completely unsure if the guy likes them too or not. These subtle signs will give you a better view of what the guy that you're with, what he may actually be thinking and some of the things he may be doing, that are actually expressions of him liking you but not really having the guts or the strategies to really tell you yet. These 5 bizarre signs are a subtle indicator that guys will give off that they actually do like you. SIGN 1: HE’S VERY SERIOUS OR QUIET [01:53] The first sign that he likes you is that he gets really serious when he's with you. And he's just really serious in his conversations with you. He's really serious in the interactions. The reason why guys do that is because he wants to play it safe. SIGN 2: HE’S FORMULIAC IN HIS APPROACH [03:06] This next bizarre sign that he may like you is if he's coming across formulaic. [03:12] FORMULIAC means rather than say going with the flow of the interaction and just being spontaneous, maybe he's waiting a certain amount of time before he contacts you after he gets your number. The reason why men stick to formulas or anybody stick two formulas when they're in social interactions is because there's a level of discomfort that they feel. SIGN 3: HE ACCIDENTALLY INSULT YOU [04:53] Alright this third sign that he likes you this one is he may accidentally insult you or challenge you in a way that seems a little bit inappropriate. And what happens here is he's trying to flirt with you. He's trying to create some type of emotional connection and oftentimes the quickest way to do that in flirting is to challenge the person or to tease them or to butt heads a little bit and create a little bit of friction between the two of you. SIGN 4: HE COMES OFF COCKY AND BRAGS [05:56] The fourth bizarre sign a guy likes you could be that he is being cocky and bragging. If you're with a guy and you're getting to know him and he's being a little bit cocky and bragging but deep down underneath you've got this feeling that he is a pretty good guy, it's probably because he is wanting to build value in your eyes. SIGN 5: HE DOESN’T INITIATE PHYSICALLY [06:49] The fifth bizarre sign that he likes you is that he doesn't initiate physically. Now this can be awkward if you're giving the guy green lights and he's not moving forward with you, it can feel almost like he's rejecting you or maybe he doesn't want you, but with men sometimes the lights can be completely green and it you can have it plastered on your forehead that you want him to kiss you or that you want him to hold your hand and he still might not do it because he might like you so much that he's badly wrestling with his nerves underneath the surface trying to figure out how we should step up because he wants to respect you. One of the concepts that I tell my clients is just assume that it's always on, that the person does like you that they are interested in you, because when you assume that the person does like you and you look for reasons that they do like you then how do you think that impacts you in the moment? I hope these 5 signs are something that you found useful and that you can begin to identify in your dating life. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This ebook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/TOLChZX1VFY
Views: 619075 Clayton Olson Coaching
How You (Unknowingly) SABOTAGE Your Success In Relationships & Dating
 
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“How You (Unknowingly) SABOTAGE Your Success In Dating & Relationships” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need coaching? https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ About the Author: Clayton has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. A Certified Coach and NLP Master Practitioner, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients find their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox News magazine, Huffington Post, The Goodmen Project and has his work featured on The View. ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ This video is important for anybody who is single or in a relationship and are trying to find the compass or the northern star on how to behave in the realm of dating and relationships. There are a lot of advice out there from people in the dating industry that may teach you how to do things that are not in line with your integrity. There is this concept in psychology called The Inter-Subjective Third. [0:53] This is fancy way of saying that when two people come together, they create a third entity called the relationship. It’s like saying in metaphor, “it consumes something in order to exist.” The relationship that two people create consume something to exist. This inter-subjective third begins the moment you meet somebody, the moment you have a text conversation with them. How this plays with people who are going through a breakup, this inter-subjective third’s role is: a. It serves as a model or a north star for everyone to bring their best self into the interaction. In inter-subjective third philosophy, you become what you give. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock-Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkAo3Icd4ts
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3 Mindset Shifts To STOP Relationship Anxiety
 
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“3 Mindset Shifts To STOP Relationship Anxiety” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Relationship Anxiety sucks. Constantly wondering whether or not your partner is going leave you can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. This type of thinking is due to not understanding your real worth in the relationship or using ineffective points of comparison. In this video, I talk about 3 mindset shifts you can make to learn how to stop being insecure in your relationships: It's how you dance within the connection with them [03:31] Focus on the connection [03:39] Your differences create attraction [04:46] Embrace your differences [05:09] Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This ebook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Urgent 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/FbVECLHUdp0
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Why Men Pull Away - His #1 Hidden Insecurity (He'll Never Share)
 
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“Why Men Pull Away - His #1 Hidden Insecurity (He'll Never Share)” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/hidden-vulnerability-3-keys-webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Jack and Clayton are going to talk about the number one vulnerability that your man will never share to you. This video aims to help women pull back a man’s psyche and explore something that a lot of men probably experience but may not be in touch with themselves. Also, this video aims to serve women by giving them more understanding and arm them with tools that will have women get their men to open-up. THIS IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE: #1: You can start to understand their actions more fully, #2: You can understand why men pull away, #3: You can understand why men leave #4: You can understand why men start to act cold and calloused or emotionally unavailable #5: What that does when you have this understanding is you then have the freedom to no longer take what they're doing The gross point: most men when they're struggling internally, don't find it easy to communicate that. This internal struggle is there, whether you are just meeting a guy, whether you're talking to him on an online dating app, whether he's approaching you, whether you've been on several dates, or whether you're in a relationship with a guy right now and really getting to know him. And that internal struggle the best way to say it is that at a core level within a masculine man there is a deep sense of inadequacy. The difference between confident men and guys that are really insecure, it's not that they don't have this voice there, it's not that this insecurity is not there, it's just the confident men don't allow their actions to be an expression of this deep fear – where men that may come off more insecure are the ones that are very reactive to this internal message. It’s called the Internal Critic Metaphor. The voice of doubt. The voice of self-criticism. The voice that tends to find the things that you're not good at, find the potential things that could go wrong, blow them up and kind of play it repeatedly. How do we know that this exists within men? It's this fear that is stopping them from being vulnerable and maybe taking things to the next step with women. In one way if you're already in a relationship with a guy, it's understanding that this fear might be just under the surface tickling there. And if you are maybe in the beginning stages of dating, that emotional safety can be created through receptivity. We've got a webinar coming up and it's called the Three Keys to Being Relationship Ready – How You Can Attract a High Quality Man. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/hidden-vulnerability-3-keys-webinar Wes dive deep into what we're talking about here. We talk about vulnerability. We talk about different roles in different ways you may be blocking your own authenticity when on a date with a guy which stops him from being able to connect with you. We also reveal the one question that every man is asking inside his mind that he'll never say out loud that determines whether he commits to you or not. The answer to that question, determines whether he commits to you or not. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/hidden-vulnerability-3-keys-webinar This free webinar contains valuable information for women who want to discover how to end the cycle of relationships that go nowhere without the pain of settling for a guy that you don’t really want. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/2rBd31hkC50
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How To Get Him Back Using No Contact Rule
 
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“How To Get Him Back Using No Contact Rule” 3 Reasons Men Leave Women (And What You Can Do To Get Him Back): https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-reasons-men-leave-book Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I am going to talk about why it is important to take space from your partner after the breakup. In a lot of programs in how to save your relationship and how to reconcile with your ex, there is this general rule of thumb that you should do a “no contact.” [00:19] [00:20] – Definition of “No Contact” [01:24] – The Importance of Shifting your Perspective by Pushing Away from Your Ex [01:35] - #1: It’s NOT for your Ex, But for YOU to get Perspective [02:50] – How will I prove that I’m strong enough and a better person if I’m NOT in contact with my ex? [03:45] – What to do when Shifting your Perspective in the No Contact phase There are patterns of the things that work and the things that don’t. And your ability to get what you want out of this situation is going to be determined largely by your (1) emotional state, and (2) how fast and efficiently you can get to a place of feeling like you got yourself back. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/certifiedcoachn ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3Rq89DoLKo
Views: 192259 Clayton Olson Coaching
3 Strange Reasons Why Men Pull Away (He Would Never Tell You...)
 
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“3 Reasons Why Men Pull Away (He Would Never Tell You...)” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Wondering Why Men Pull Away? 1. He felt pressured and inadequate [00:14] Were you constantly chasing him? Did you want more love, affection, or lovemaking than what he was doling out? Did you feel like you were frequently trying to "fix" things in the relationship? If you can identify with any of these, there was definitely an imbalance in your relationship, and more than likely he felt pressured and inadequate in your presence. And it's important that you know ... that's not at all your fault. Most men run from emotional pressure like they're running for their lives (because, in their minds, they are running for their lives). Emotional pressure challenges the underdeveloped part of a man's masculinity and makes him feel ill-equipped to deal. In his mind, he feels like anything he does isn't (and never will be) good enough for you. This causes men to naturally shut down and lock their hearts up like Fort Knox, rather than deal with any more feelings of pressure or inadequacy. 2. Your relationship felt competitive [01:21] If a man has to compete with a woman for control of the relationship, he not only feels inadequate, but also like there's no place for his masculinity in his woman's life. Keep this in mind: it's very important. This isn't to say that a man should control the entire relationship, that's unfair to both parties. Rather, a successful relationship has complementary forces where each person relinquishes control in certain areas. If this doesn't happen, both parties end up in competition — both compete to win and, in the end, the relationship loses. This dynamic shows up in scenarios like these: In a social context with friends! Did the two of you get in arguments about who was "right" in front of friends? Financially, who is the breadwinner? Did you make more money than him? And more importantly, was it ever brought up in a way that emasculated him? Relationally, did you constantly make the decisions in the relationship? Where to eat, what fun things to do, or what movies to attend? If he felt like you were against him instead of for him, he never felt fully capable of opening his heart because he was afraid of losing the "game" and getting hurt. 3. He didn't feel respected [02:44] A man can't build a life with a woman who doesn't respect him. He has to feel that his partner has his back above and beyond anyone else — he must know that in his weakest moment, she will shower him with acceptance. Because, you see, here is the hidden truth about your value: you are the key to his greatness. In order for him to unlock all that he has within him, including his tenderness and willingness to commit, he needs a deep and underlying foundation of respect. With a high caliber woman by his side he can take greater risks in life and actually experience more freedom than ever possible by himself. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This ebook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/4ASgHws_Cts
Views: 75493 Clayton Olson Coaching
5 Unusual Tips: How To Get Your Ex Back (Without Playing Games)
 
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“5 Unusual Tips: How to Get Your Ex Back (Without Playing Games)” Trying to Get HIM Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-reasons-men-leave-book Trying to Get HER Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-no-bs-truths-guide Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton is going to talk about the number one question that keeps getting asked by his clients, how do I get back with an ex? How do I fix my relationship? Oftentimes, it's up to you to examine whether or not the dynamic you had with your ex is healthy. Some things you need to make the best move on how to fix relationship: a. taking space b. journaling c. working with a therapist or coach The Five Steps Towards Reconciliation with A Partner That's Broken Up with You Important: The larger context around getting an ex back is that the relationship breakup is an opportunity for your own transformation. Step 1 in Reconciling with your Ex - NOT GO TOO MUCH TOO SOON When your partner breaks up with you, they are wanting space. They are making a declaration that they need perspective, that they need to walk away and collect themselves and truly experience what it's like to no longer have you in their life. Many times, people break up with their partners because they are looking for clarity. Sometimes they're breaking up with them because they want nothing to do with them anymore, at least in the moment, and it is very important that you honor that decision and back away from them and deal with your emotions without them helping you. Step 2 in Reconciling with an Ex - AVOID BLAMING YOURSELF AND AVOID PUNISHING YOURSELF OVER THIS BREAKUP You may have done some things that didn't work, you may have been selfish, you may have taken the person for granted, you may have been ignorant to their feelings, and it’s not your fault. This is the kind of stuff that happens in relationships and sometimes it takes several go-arounds before we get it right. If you didn't have the best model growing up from your mom and your dad or even if you did sometimes relationships take a few tries before you really get them right. So, go easy on yourself and realize that you've made some mistakes maybe they've made some mistakes as well and it's okay. Step 3 in How to Get Back with your Ex - STAY SINGLE AND STAY IN INTEGRITY WITH YOURSELF Don't go find somebody so you can then post on Facebook how you want to “I'm some amazing date with a different guy or a different woman” just so you can make your ex jealous. You're not operating from your best self you're operating from a part of you that wants to make the other person jealous or wants to hurt them and wants to instill fear of them so they fear that you might leave and then they come back Step 4 in Getting Back Together with An Ex - TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE BREAK-UP IN A WAY THAT TRULY TOUCHES YOUR PARTNER It's not enough to say “I'm sorry.” You're going to have to dig and have to get down to the core dynamic that led to this breakup. Step 5 in Getting Back with An Ex - GET OUTSIDE HELP Get outside help, whether it's a life coach or relationship coach, somebody to help you see the things that you are too close to; to help point out the obstacles that are in your blind spots that are stopping you from making progress it's invaluable and will exponentially help you move forward. It can be very easy to get stuck in a situation where you are on the path to reconciling with your ex or reconciling with your lover and moving forward in the right direction and then to mess it up because you don't know what happens next or you react to something because you get in your own way and you get emotional and you say something you'll regret and you make a poor decision and I don't want that to happen to you. So, one of the things that I've done is I've created two different links: Trying to Get HIM Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-reasons-men-leave-book Trying to Get HER Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-no-bs-truths-guide These eBooks will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/fdjXbe9yVaI
Views: 144491 Clayton Olson Coaching
3 Traits of A Trustworthy Man - How to Know If You Should Trust Him
 
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“3 Traits of A Trustworthy Man - How to Know If You Should Trust Him” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Traits-3-Keys-Webinar-Register Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Jack and Clayton are going to talk about Three Traits of a Worthy Man. This video is incredibly important because if you've been a follower of some of the content that Jack and Clayton have put out, you'll know that they talk about ways to pave the way for a man to fall in love with you, ways to make a man commit. And something that is even more important than having those skills is making sure that you're picking the right man, making sure that you're investing in planning your seeds in the fertile soil. What they set out to do in this video is they're going to identify 3 core traits of a worthy man. If you're dating right now, if you've been in a relationship or a lovership with a guy, and you're wondering whether you should continue, pay close attention to these and see if they apply to your guy. There are 3 “I’s” that you’re going to learn in this video: [01:02] Core Trait #1: Investing (Is He Investing in You) The first “I” is Investing. Is the guy investing in you? Is the guy investing in the relationship? What does investing mean? In this context, “when investing” means is he investing his presence and attention in you and the relationship. Is he actually really there? Whether this is 30 minutes a day or three hours a day, it's more on the quality of availability that he is bringing to the relationship Is he there with you or is his mind and his attention somewhere else? 2 Kinds of Investing: #1: PRESENCE AND ATTENTION #2: TIME AND ENERGY: how much is he wanting to spend time with you? how much is he making plans for you? how much is he thinking about the relationship when he's going through his day in life and making decisions? [03:22] Core Trait #2: Integrity (Does He Have Integrity in Other Areas of His Life?) The next “I” is Integrity. This is gonna come in all shapes and sizes. In here, Clayton focuses on a common one and it's this element where a woman is dating a man, or she is emotionally connected to a guy and the way he is presented himself to her is that there is a certain level of integrity. Integrity is just a silo of how is he treating her specifically and we don't look at the larger context of his life, the walls being pulled over our eyes right. Because how do we know how somebody is? It's almost like you're going on a date with somebody and imagine them being nice to you but suddenly rude to the waiter? Is it just because you're so special right? So, it's important to look at all aspects of this guy's life and see it where is he actually out of integrity? [06:53] Core Trait #3: Influence (Is He Open to Being Influenced By You?) The third “I” is Influence. How open is your guy to being influenced by you? And the specific piece to cover here is, does he emotionally validate you? This means when you bring your emotions to the table, is he actually open to receiving the impact of them? Or, is he dismissing them? Is he discounting them? Is he shutting them down? Because if that's the case, he's not really open to you and rather it might feel like your an accessory and that there's no place for your heart in the relationship with him. Part of being influenced in a relationship is being influenced by your partner's emotions but that doesn't mean that they have to take action on it. It doesn't mean that something that necessarily needs a change. It just means that he is able to hold space for you to have your emotional experience without discounting that you are making it wrong or invalidating it and pushing you further away from him. Clayton and Jack got a webinar called The Three Keys to Attracting The High Quality Men. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Traits-3-Keys-Webinar-Register This free webinar contains valuable information for women who want to discover how to end the cycle of relationships that go nowhere without the pain of settling for a guy that you don’t really want. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/f6YX3Id5zfQ
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Can "Neediness" Be Attractive?  Here's How To Love...
 
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“Love Advice For Healthy Relationships - Should You "Need" Your Partner?” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” guide << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In today’s video, I am going to talk about love advice for healthy relationships and how to maintain it. I am going to offer a different perspective in needing somebody that may relive a little bit of guilt when you need somebody while you’re with them. How not to be clingy or needy in a relationship [00:46] The Art of Loving – Quote [01:24] Immature: I love you because I NEED YOU [02:06] Mature: I need you because I LOVE YOU [02:46] If you’re in a relationship or have been thinking about getting into a relationship, I encourage you to rethink this idea of needing someone and rethink the idea of what healthy relationships mean to you. When you’re able to do that, you will successfully enter healthy relationships from a place of consciousness; transform it into a life-giving venture than something superficial. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/ZMerR1AjVdw
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5 DEEP Compliments That Make His Heart Melt
 
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REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-compliments-3-keys-webinar-registration Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session “5 Compliments That Makes His Heart Melt” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I'm going to give you 5 compliments that you can give to any man that make his heart melt, help him feel respected and make him feel seen in a way that makes your connection with him very special. Before going into in these 5 compliments, let’s explore a little bit deeper why compliments are so important? It is why your language and ability to see somebody can make such an impact on them. Now more than ever people question themselves, with social media and everybody's got their own personal PR agent a.k.a Facebook where we are putting images of who we want people to see us as when we’re really hiding and we're not really connecting deeply with people So without further ado here are the five complements. [02:54] The first compliment I have for you is, “I Love the Way You Think.” Now I love the way you think. I love this one. I absolutely love it because I'm a thinker. And a lot of men are thinkers. A lot of men are logical and like to fix things and figure out different things that are going wrong and then provide solutions for them. And when you are able to compliment a man's mind by saying that, “I love the way you think,” it helps this part of him feel seen a part of him that maybe he secretly prides himself on. And it has nothing to do with what he was given necessarily genetically like his looks or nothing that he has like his money or his cars. It has to do specifically with something that he's developed that's internal that maybe not many people see. So use that one, “I Love the Way You Think.” [03:49] Another one is, “The Way You Make Decisions Turns Me On.” Now I don't know any man that doesn't want to be good at making decisions quickly and making effective decisions. And if you are dating the guy or you're in a relationship with a man who has a hard time making decisions, it can be a bit of a secret insecurity for him. So there's a couple different ways to use the compliment: one, is if you're with a guy and he is making decisions and he's taking some risks and he's leading the relationship give a reward by complimenting him and let him know that you see that. And it just encourages them to do it more in the heat again feel seen by you. [05:11] The next compliment is, “I Love Watching You Now.” “I love watching you.” You could do this to anything. I mean he could be in the grocery store and squeezing produce and you can come up behind him and whisper in his ear, “I love watching you.” And you can also add on that one, “I love watching you it turns me on.” And this can be fun. It can and it also it gives him the sense that he's being observed by you and even if he's not trying to be sexy or even if he's not trying to impress you, he's doing it. He's doing it. [06:14] So the next one is, “You make me feel so safe because…” You make me feel so safe because you just know what to do… because you just know what to say. And the reason why the sentence stem is “you make me feel so safe because…” and the reason is because that level of detail at the end allows the compliment to go even deeper and help him see even more himself. So that level of detail just hit that. He gets to see himself more clearly and then he also gets to see the impact that the way that he is has on you which is like a two-for-one. Alright. [07:02] And then last but not least the compliment I have for you is, “You Inspire Me.” And this one is just I don't know any man that doesn't want to be the hero in his own story at least some of the time. And to feel that his actions, his character, the way that he is in the relationship, the way that he is out in the world doing whatever he's doing, has an effect on people close to him that call for them to be better people and to step up their game and to see him in a way that is admirable. This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/
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#1 Secret: How To Make A Man Fall In Love And KEEP Him Interested
 
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“Unusual Tip: How to Keep A Man” FREE access to the Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Honest Communication in Relationship: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/step-by-step-guide FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video I'm going to talk about how to help a man experience more freedom and feel more freedom while he's with you in a committed relationship then he could possibly being single, running around dating and playing the field. If you like this video, as you're listening to it stick around to the very end because I've got something that is another free video that you may find particularly fascinating and useful if you're in a relationship. Now this idea of freedom. How to help a man feel more free in a relationship. Why is that important? Well there's a lot of literature out there that states that men - the masculine - want to experience freedom and life and that freedom is a very deep value of men. And there's also a lot of popular thought that in order to get a man to commit somehow he's got to give up or sacrifice this freedom to be in the relationship. There's terms like “Commitment phobe.” He's a commitment-phobe, or men even referring to women as the “old ball and chain” or that when a guy gets married he's got to give up his player card. Which all paint this picture that the man is giving up the sense of freedom that is so deep to him being a man. And that there's a compromise that he's got to be, that he's got to participate in in order to be in a relationship. Well if you are a woman and you believe this, then it sets up a pretty not a good dynamic because you feel like you're taking something away from him and that he's compromising and that you've somehow twisted his arm to get the relationship. But what if there was a way that you could help him experience more freedom in the relationship with you? Well there is. And in order to illustrate this I'm gonna give you a little background of how this idea came to light. I was on a coaching call with a client recently and it was a woman who had been in a relationship with a guy for several months and the guy just recently broke up with her and when we got to the core of what was actually happening the relationship we uncovered that she was using a strategy from childhood to try to manage the relationship. She was being a people pleaser. She's being very agreeable. She was trying to create harmony. She was avoiding confrontation. She was trying to give him what he wanted and they finally broke up. And one of the complaints that he expressed to her he said, “You know I feel like I've got to consistently walk around on eggshells with you and that I can't be myself. Men learn from a very young age to actually disowned a part of themselves, a part of their emotional experience in order to be in line with this idea of being a man. And so they go through life with these blinders that are created. Now that's not every man -- some men go out and read literature or do some work on themselves and learn to recapture this emotional experience. Now this video's already about 8 minutes long, so I'm not going to go into exactly how to do that but if you would like to know step by step what that communication would look like, how you can bring your emotional experience and your honest communication to him to create a deeper connection and more permission for him to be honest with you so the two of you can actually work through struggles rather than sweep them under the rug, click on the link: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/step-by-step-guide Enter email address and I've got another video that I made that breaks down that process step-by-step. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/d-nRbTI7Ex0
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What Men REALLY Want - (86% said this...)
 
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REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR - https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/what-men-want-3-keys-webinar-registration “What Men REALLY Want - (86% said this...)” Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ What do men really want? Is it casual, non-committal sex? Maybe sometimes, but a survey I talk about in this video reveals there is more than just that. In this video, I'm going to talk about one little belief that I've noticed a number of women hold onto about men that is really detrimental to your dating and in relationship life. It can actually block intimacy can block connection and can make dating just frustrating experience. A client I’ve been working with said, “the problem with dating nowadays is guys just want one thing. They want non-committal no-strings-attached sex.” And I heard that and I empathized with her immediately. And I totally got it right? I mean, with Tinder and Ashley Madison and all these other ways that men can now discreetly go find a partner and hook up without even having to leave their house. It can be really easy to lose faith in the male species right? But see, holding on to that belief and not challenging. It actually creates just tension in your dating life and it puts you at odds with men because rather than feeling aligned with them feeling. Like you both want the same thing, it feels then the subtle energy is one where you are having to barter sex, your body for an emotional connection with a guy or a commitment from the guy. And then there is a power struggle rather than a dance because the two of you don't want the same thing. That's the belief. Let's shift that because if you believe that men don't actually want a long-term relationship. It's going to create insecurity in the relationship where you're not going to feel safe. You're going to feel that he might leave at any moment you'll feel that somehow you trapped him and that he doesn't actually want to be there. And then the connection in the intimacy between the two of you is thwarted on some level. So many women that are holding on to that belief of men just want sex, they do take the sexual advance personally and they feel they got to draw these really solid hard line boundaries. And what that ends up doing is the man feels shutdown in some ways and just stopped pursuing all together. Now I know that there's some guys out there that when they do pursue they pursue very hard and maybe they are very bold and inappropriate with their sexual advances. And I'm not saying don't draw solid boundaries with them and sometimes that is completely necessary. But be conscious of how and when you are doing it. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/d7hLXNTz6a0
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5 Types Of Men To Avoid At All Costs (Especially #5 - BIG Red Flag In Dating)
 
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“5 Types Of Men To Avoid At All Costs (Especially #5 - BIG Red Flag In Dating)” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Red-Flags-3-Keys-Webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack talks about 5 Types of Men That You Want To Avoid At All Costs. The purpose of this video is to help you be discerning with your time and to know when not to invest in getting to know a guy because in a way these are like five red flags. There five things that you could spot super early on and getting to know a guy and if you were continuing to invest time in him. [01:09] Type #1: The Married or “Taken” Man The first one is the man who is either married or in a relationship. Now this one might seem obvious if you have not encountered it, but it can be really confusing to be in that relationship with somebody when for instance, there's really this real feeling that are being passed back and forth. When you can feel the guy's heart. When he's emotionally open and expressive and maybe even talking about leaving his wife or his partner to be with you. It can be hard to turn that down especially if you feel the realness of it; however, it's one that you want to avoid because more times than not, it's gonna lead to heartbreak. [02:38] Type #2: The Guy Who Is on The Rebound A guy who is still involved or very recently involved with someone else, and you know, I've been there. I've been that guy. It's very hard to clearly see that you're in a rebound. You almost need to go through the process of rebound. [04:30] If you want to be his partner, don’t be his healer. [05:04] Type #3: The Guy Who Is Living with His Parents Maybe he’s living in mom's basement and there's gonna be a few variations on this but it's basically a proxy for a guy who hasn't really got his stuff together, right? How he said, “got his s**** together.” And he may be a nice guy, he may be a hot open guy, he may be a great guy in lots of ways, but this is kind of like he hasn't slayed his own dragon. Another way of saying this too is that he may be still in boyhood mentality and needing some type of initiation or the just the hard knocks of life there to usher him into a more adult man mentality. [07:26] Type #4: The Broken Bird This might be a man who is depressed. He's really in debt. He's been through some hard times. And it's not necessarily that he's been through the hard times that's the problem but it's how he's holding those hard times and how perhaps, he's emotionally and mentally still stuck in those hard times. [09:25] Type #5: The Spin Artist This is a guy who you know maybe he overtly lies early in the relationship and making an excuse for it. He's not really giving you the full truth or any time you try and pin him down or make him accountable for something. There's always like a reason. There's always an excuse. There's always a mitigating factor. And there's a kind of slipperiness to the energy. AN INVITATION FOR A FREE WEBINAR: If you are a woman watching this video, and you found it valuable in any way shape or form, I want to encourage you to click on the link below to register for a free 90-minute webinar that I'm putting on called Three Secrets to Attracting And Keeping A High Quality Man. If that sounds intriguing, go ahead and click the link below, find a time that works for you, and we will see you on the webinar. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Red-Flags-3-Keys-Webinar Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/GpsqeWCf370
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1 Secret To Create & Allow Love In Your Relationships
 
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“1 Secret To Create & Allow Love In Your Relationships” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I’m going to share one secret on how to allow more love into your life and relationships. This video was inspired by a quote that I have read online from Piper of the Netflix hit series “Orange is the New Black”: “It’s like coming home after a long trip that’s what love is. Love is like coming home.” That quote got me into thinking and how it’s been true in my life. Falling in love and being in love is like coming home. It’s coming home to a familiar feeling – something safe. The importance of this is if we can understand the architecture of what love can actually be then we can begin to find real ways of behaving which allows to create a territory of love. Love is like coming back to yourself. There’s some part of you that you’re afraid of or embarrassed of but these flaws can come out as something that is accepted by the person who loves you. This whole concept of loving yourself helps on how to make a man fall in love with you or how to make him commit to you and your relationship. This concept also applies to men as well. As you learn to attract more love in yourself, you also pick up the idea of how to make someone fall in love with you. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/WZca9xeesAg
Views: 28797 Clayton Olson Coaching
WARNING: 3 Attachment Styles Explain Your Entire Relationship History
 
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Click this Link To Join The Free Webinar: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/attachment-3-keys-webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Attached, Attachment Theory, Attachment Style Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session
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5 Signs A Guy REALLY Likes You - How To KNOW If A Guy Likes You
 
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“5 Signs A Guy Likes You - How to KNOW If A Guy Likes You” Register for The Free Webinar Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-likes-you-3-keys-to-attract-and-keep-men Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack talks about the most common question asked, how can you tell if a guy likes you? How can you tell if a guy wants a relationship with you? This video is all about the 5 signs he likes you. Sign #1: INVESTMENT The first sign that a guy likes you is that he's willing to see you more than twice a week. The ideal is around three weeks. If he’s seen you any less than three and it's only two times a week, there's something happening in his life where he's not actually making you a priority. This doesn't mean necessarily that you are physically seeing him. It could just be that the two of you are connecting three times a week emotionally. Some people get into relationships, especially in this online world, where the relationship is a bit long-distance, so if you're connecting emotionally for three times a week, chances are that he's into you and he's making you a priority. Sign #2: VULNERABILITY We talk a lot about feminine vulnerability but in this video, we’re talking about masculine vulnerability. How much is he willing to reveal himself to you? How much is he allowing himself to deepen in the relationship? Because guys can hang out with women quite a lot and keep you in the more of a dating friendzone, if they're not really revealing their problems, their challenges, their edges – so you might want to pay attention to this. How much of his inner world, his deeper world is he really revealing to you? And if he is, that's a good sign that he might want to be in a longer-term relationship. Sign #3: INCLUSION This means he's including you in conversations and in plans with coworkers, friends, and family. If he's bringing you into any one of those domains, chances are that he likes you. Because most often what's happening is he's got his co-workers, or his friends, or his family, they're talking. They're in conversations with him about you, when you're not around. And there's a certain amount of investment, there's a certain way, that he sees you beginning to be included in his life which may even involve future planning as well. Sign #4: INTEGRATION Integration is how much he's inviting you into the different domains of his life. Is he including you in his home life? Is he including you in his work life? Is he including you in his hobbies? Is he including you with the people in his life? Said differently, is he allowing you a place in his life does he want you as his go-to person as his champion, as his support, as he's going through life? Or, are you kind of contained to one round? Like “we do hobbies together, but we don't really hang out at home, or he invites me to his home, but we never go out.” If that's happening that might be a sign that he's not actually willing to invest. Sign #5: FUTURE PLANS This is creating a future vision that he's including you in. Now this might not be explicit. He might not be saying, “Hey. Look I see a future with you.” He might not even be in a relationship a committed monogamous relationship with you quite yet. But if he is making plans that is including you in the future, chances are that this guy is into you. Because he's building a vision and he sees a future version of himself out there somewhere on the horizon with you in that picture. THE WEBINAR Did you enjoy this video? You may want to join us for an event that we've got organized. And this webinar is called the Three Keys to Attracting and Keeping A High-Quality Man. This is a 90 minute webinar containing some of the best contents Clayton and Jack created around helping you begin to remove the blocks that are within you that are stopping you from being able to create lasting love with a high-quality man Register for The Free Webinar Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-likes-you-3-keys-to-attract-and-keep-men In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/XAIhMoaMEp4
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1 Trick To Attracting Men - How To Stop Being Needy With Men
 
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“1 Trick To Attracting Men - How To Stop Being Needy With Men” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I’m going to talk about how to stop being needy and how to stop being cling in a relationship. This topic was posted in the comment section from one of my videos. The question was: “I am seeing a guy and find that generally our texts flow rather organically, that my texts match the size / frequency of his (definitely something I am aware of since I used to for sure overload previous people), and that we do have sensitive banter that sometimes he initiates and sometimes I do. However, sometimes he just straight up won't text me for days - since he is normally the first person to text me in the morning and throughout the day I find that when he does this radio silence for a day or two I get really worried and spend the time constantly checking my phone and getting freaked out. So my question is: what do I do in this situation? How do I break these unusual periods of silence without coming off as needy? ” There are two parts in response to this question. [01:28] The first one is “I get really worried when he doesn’t text” The first place to work on is on that being “worried” that is being generated in that texting. If you don’t address that, it’s one sure way to come off as being needy. If you’re worried that he’s not texting, you’re inadvertently injecting fear and worry into the relationship. He’s going to feel that one way or another. How to address? Begin to expand your view on the specific situation. It’s easier said than done but if the guy is moving too slow, then begin to rethink if this is the dynamic that you want to be a part of. Now in those moments of having radio silence with a guy. If you ever decide to take the relationship further and the guy is silent on the other end, try to charge up your nervous system a bit in preventing not to become too worried. Try to have a conversation with him about that, not necessarily in a place of fear. [05:00] The second part of this how to stop being needy or how to stop being insecure is you embrace the fact that you have NEEDS. Being needy and coming off as clingy is actually the result of not having the right to speak your needs into the space between your significant other. This neediness arises from all of the things that you do to compensate for not having a right to express your wants and desires in a relationship. If you’re able to communicate these needs it gets you out if the realm of being needy. It is powerful, respectful and mature way of communicating in a relationship. Everything stated in this video is not the truth but is a way of approaching relationships and communication. It empowers you to get what you want out of a relationship. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/EXRzR1zD-Ms
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How To Deal With a Breakup Through the Power of Acceptance
 
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“How To Deal With a Breakup Through the Power of Acceptance” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ This video is dedicated to those who are going through excruciating breakups. There’s a handful of people that remains stuck in the midst of the breakup. While there are some people who would question why this had to happen to them, there are also a handful of people who use this breakup to transform not only their relationship looking forward but through their lives. What’s actually happening here is that the people that are able to move through this breakup experience and further find healing has to do with the story that they wrap around the breakup. And that story is whether they ACCEPT the breakup or they’re NOT ACCEPTING it. If you’re not accepting the breakup, you are not accepting reality. You are running from something. The breakup is turning into this weight on you and you are trying to push it off to be able to breath. You are weighed down by this “why me” questions. [03:00] The key to actually get out of this cycle and move forward in a way that you become a transformed person is to TRULY ACCEPT the breakup and keep in line with it. What this means is befriending the breakup. This is going to allow you to come to the table and accept the reality of what is happening right now. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/0V83JeLLD2w
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7 Subtle Signs He's Just Not That Into You
 
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REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Keys-Webinar-2 Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack dishes out the Seven Signs That He's Not That Into You. Sign #1: He Won’t Connect More Than 2x A Week [00:29] The first point is that he won't connect with you more than twice a week. This is not about text messages but it’s about deep conversations or seeing you more than twice a week. Long-distance relationship is a different story. But in this context, if he's not willing to be in your presence or emotionally connect with you more than twice a week, then he's not really investing. What's happening is he's investing just enough to keep the connection alive but he's not forwarding or deepening the interactions in the connection with you. Sign #2: He’s Not Being That Vulnerable With You… [01:02] Point number two is that he's not being that vulnerable with you. This is a good chance just to slow down a little bit and tune in and notice how deeply he is revealing himself to you. How connected is willing to be with you. There's always a limit to how connected you can be if either of you isn't willing to reveal more deeply right. KEY POINT: Self-revelation is the key ingredient in deepening intimacy. Sign #3: He Won’t Introduce You To His Friends [02:03] The third point is that he won't introduce you to his friends. You've been seeing him for a while, yet you don't really know who he hangs out with. If he's not bringing you into his life and not introducing you to his friends, it's probably not that serious or he doesn't see you as somebody that is worthy of introducing to his friends. Sign #4: Dimensions of Relating with a Man [03:08] Point four is about dimensions of relating with a man and you might know that he's just not the one for you. If you really have what we call ONE DIMENSIONAL RELATING – there's only one domain of life or relationship that you're in with him. Perhaps you always visit each other at your houses but you never go on a trip together, you never hang out with friends, you never go to the movies, you don't go on public restaurant dates. Sign #5: Point Blank [04:08] This might seem incredibly obvious for some and for some maybe not. And it's if a man says Point Blank, he doesn't know if he can give you what you need. Other women say that her man feels like a wild animal or that he's not enough point in his life where he can really give her the attention that she wants. I For some, it's just a matter of waiting around for him or convincing him of your value: that he's gonna change his mind if he just sees how much you care about him and how much of a support you can really be. KEY POINT: 9 times out of 10, probably 99%, you're not gonna change him. Sign #6: He’s Not Including You In His Future Plans… [06:35] At point six, he's not including you in his plants. This is another way that you might notice now when he's not into you, is that he's not really furthering plans with you in the future right. He's talking about what he wants to do next month maybe he's got plans to travel, they're not co-plans. None of this is about making him wrong, it's about YOU. It's about what you want and are you getting it? Sign #7: You Feel Like You Are Doing All the Chasing [07:24] So, lastly number seven you feel like you are subtly chasing him where you feel like you are constantly initiating. And if that is the dynamic where you are consistently initiating, look if he's into you. You will know it. He will typically step forward and there will be initiation on his part that is more than twice a week. We've got a webinar coming up that you can register: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Keys-Webinar-2 We talked about how the dynamic that goes into a man claiming a woman. It’s one of the points. And how to position yourself in a way where you are not strong-arming him into trying to commit to you but rather you are setting up the dynamic to where it's completely his choice and he wants to do that. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Keys-Webinar-2 This free webinar contains valuable information for women who want to discover how to end the cycle of relationships that go nowhere without the pain of settling for a guy that you don’t really want. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/rlF9OPrpeSs
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Should You Be Friends With Your Ex? What To Do When He Says Let's Be Friends
 
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“Should You Be Friends With Your Ex? What To Do When He Says Let's Be Friends” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I am going to talk about a valuable topic that would be beneficial for anyone who just got out of a relationship. The topic is being friends with an ex. There's two things in this situation: 1) Your ex wants to be friends, do you really want to have a friendly communication with him/her again? Is the redefinition of the relationship something that you're on board with? 2) Or, is the friendship merely a Trojan horse that you're using to get closer to his heart where you have an agenda and you're hoping that possibly he starts wanting you to be his girlfriend and has a change of heart. If you choose option 1 and if you don't really want and don't agree with the redefinition of the relationship as a friend he will intuitively be able to pick up on that when you're hanging out with him and what happens in that moment is he will loss respect for you. If you choose the other option then cut ties with him completely. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/MEYiYWSlFtI
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The Most Powerful Secret To Attract "The One" (It's not what you think)
 
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“The Most Powerful Secret to Attract "The One" (It's not what you think)” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/powerful-secret-3-keys-webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack are going to talk about the most powerful way to attract the one. This is a bold claim because there isn’t an assurance that there's just a one person out there for us, but Clayton does know that we all want to find a long-term committed relationship where we can really be ourselves. KEY PHRASE: BE OURSELVES This key phrase is the topic of this video. Being ourselves is the most powerful way to attract the one. How do you just be your own authentic self? It’s often when we are divorced from ourselves and we're not able to be ourselves, we are not able to bring our best selves or our full selves to the table. So, how does one begin to just move the needle? Clayton and Jack agree that there may not be like the one person out there for us. I think we can agree on that but where we may agree also is that there is the one here, right? So, let's talk about becoming the one and in that sense it's not like there's lots of different ones out there. This is you. You are unique and so part of being yourself is owning your uniqueness. METAPHOR: Orchestra In an orchestra, we have the brass (French horn) and the strings (violin). A violin and a horn are different but equally valuable to the orchestra. And a horn kind of if you will trust itself to be itself you blow it and it makes a sound. You as a human being have a particular sound, a particular flavor, a particular expression if you will. And this is what being yourself is, it’s knowing that you’re a horn and trusting that and expressing it. [04:02] NOT BEING YOURSELF HAS YOU ATTRACT SOMEONE Who Isn’t Being Themselves If you pretend to be somebody you’re not, it’s going to be a recipe for failure. You’re setting yourself up for more work. You're setting yourself up for exhaustion and more than likely you're going to attract somebody else who is in a role. Somebody else who is not being themselves. And then suddenly your relationship becomes brittle because rather than having two hearts in a relationship together, you have to ego structures that are interacting with each other. KEY POINT: A key point here in our attempt to help move the needle on authenticity is notice where you are trying to manage your image with folks: to people that you're dating, with new people that you're meeting. The more that you're trying over there to be whatever it is that you think that you need to be in order to get some type of result, you are creating a schism within yourself and your authentic self. The persona and the authentic self. So, the invitation here is let's say in the dating world is rather than making the intent of going on these dates to be to impress or to get some type of results or to get a second date, why don't you make it a container for an experiment for say the next month or two one in which the primary intent is to show up and be yourself in. That's it. It's not to get a second date. It's not to impress the person. It's not to get the person to like you or to want to move things forward. It is just a container [or] a pressure cooker for you to practice bringing that self that you are around your friends to the interactions. If you are a woman watching this video, and you found it valuable in any way shape or form, I want to encourage you to click on the link below to register for a free 90-minute webinar that I'm putting on called Three Secrets To Attracting And Keeping A High Quality Man. If that sounds intriguing, go ahead and click the link below, find a time that works for you, and we will see you on the webinar. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/powerful-secret-3-keys-webinar Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/clbBgM9Jlmc
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1 Secret To A Healthy Relationship
 
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“The Secret Reason Why Relationships Fail...” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session In this video, I’m going to talk about the secrets why relationships fail. Why do most relationships fail? Well it depends on the reason you got into the relationship. The REASON you entered into the relationship determines the quality of it. It determines whether it's going to be a healthy relationship or whether it's going to fail. Why Some People Get Into Relationships [00:39] Reason #1: Fear [2:14] Reason #2: Financial Security [2:56] Reason #3: Status [4:03] How to Have A Healthy Relationship [4:40] Love [4:58] Personal Growth Machine [5:45] Try to shed some light in the reasons why you’re in that particular relationship. Be conscious of it and then choose the reason that is in congruent with where you ultimately want to take your relationship – that is to have a healthy relationship.’ Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This ebook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” << http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME << FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl << TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson << PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ << INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: << http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: << [email protected] Share this video: << https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4w3LQVAP2s
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He's Pulled Away - Here's What To Do...   (Why men pull away)
 
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“He's Pulled Away - Here's What To Do... (Why men pull away) ” Click here to register: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/he-pulled-away-3-keys-webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ This video is all about he's pulled away and what do you do? Clayton and Jack are hoping to give you some perspectives about how to orient to a man when this is happening that might just serve you to feel more empowered, to feel less in pain and to kind of feel more okay about the relationship. [02:49] Don’t Take His Behavior Personally The first one is don't take it personally as hard as that is. Which is to say that it might be much more about him than it is about you. That he has a need for some space, for some autonomy. You know we were talking the other day and went out for dinner and you were saying there's you know there's a reason we have a man cave. [05:51] Make Requests, Rather Than Demands Oftentimes when a man does something you don't like, your tendency might be to criticize him, blame him, cajole him, humiliate him, pressure him. All sorts of kind of underhand tactics if you will, rather than not cleanly ask for what is it that you want. Which could be, “Hey. When you take space and we come in back into connection, it would really benefit me if you could just hold me for five minutes? That would allow me to feel connected to you again.” Or, “if you're gonna take space of more than you know one or two days I would love to know that just in a quick text or call me or whatever works for you.” And the way that you know that it's a request rather than a demand is that I can say yes or no to your request. We might negotiate, or we might come to a better compromise or better adjustment but making a request is he gets to say yes or no to what it is you're asking. [07:39] Don’t Subjectify Him And what that fancy word subjectify mean is don't imagine that when he does something, he does it with the same way that you would do that thing, or with the same intention that you would do that thing. So, typically as a woman, if you're pulling away from your man it's something different than when a man is pulling away from you because your need for space and autonomy and rest may be different to his need. So, it might be that you have a pattern that when someone really upsets you, you create a little bit of a wall maybe like a stone wall and you withdraw, and you pull away and that's a kind of defense. And that may or may not be happening with him, so it's almost like don't assume that you know what's going on. Get curious and don't imagine that the thing that would be true for you is true for him. AN INVITATION FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: We have a webinar and it’s called the Three Keys to Attracting and Keeping a High Quality Man. It's some of the best content that we've put together in the last year. It's 90 minutes. We had some people watch it several times actually and continue to get value from it so the link to register for a time that works for you is down below: Click here to register: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/he-pulled-away-3-keys-webinar Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/mByt2NgmNYc
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1 Elusive Secret to How To Be A Man In Relationship
 
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“1 Secret to How To Be A Man In Relationship” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I am going to talk about 1 secret to demonstrate real strength as a man in a relationship with a woman. When I was younger, I really did not know what being a man is – the ideas of what being a man was from friends, society and my father. [00:29] The concoction that I came up with is a man that is somewhat strong. A man is someone that makes money and provides. A man is tough and in control. These are a pretty messed up view of a man. This secret about being powerful as a man in a relationship can be elusive. A woman’s point of view of what is true power to man is different with what other man perceives it to be. [02:04] What a woman sees as true power in a man is your ability in handling her emotions. So if you’re in a relationship or getting into a relationship the secret on how to be a man a woman wants is, especially if there’s a disharmony, upset or emotional expression from her part, to step in and see if you could hold space for her. Stay connected to her through the pain that you are feeling and not disconnect. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This ebook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fk0pjeQQXqo
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STOP Playing Hard To Get... (Do This Instead)
 
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“STOP Playing Hard to Get... (Do This Instead)” FREE “5 Secrets to Make Him Commit” << http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I’m going to talk about when to play hard-to-get. I get a lot of questions like this: “Clayton should I play hard-to-get? Should I act disinterested? Should I ignore the guy?” To answer this question, I'll talk a little bit about some of the content that's you've probably been exposed to as a woman on YouTube looking for getting advice and for men who seek advice in the pickup industry. What it tempts to do is shortcut being somebody. It shortcuts being somebody and tries to give you the behaviors that would make it look like you are someone of high value. It's “I'm going to change everything that I'm doing and hope on the inside that things will turn out my way.” A high value woman does not play hard-to-get. KEY POINT: It may look like she's playing hard-to-get from the outside, that is the behavior that it looks like she might be doing from one level of consciousness, it looks like she's playing hard to get, but what is happening and what her internal experience is that she's just simply living her life – a life that she loves. And because of that, she is unavailable to activities and people and things that pull her down or aren't congruent with her way of living. So, it makes her seem like she's playing hard to get but she's BEING hard to get. She's not playing hard to get, she's BEING hard to get. It’s the same thing with this idea of like ignoring a man, she's not wondering whether she should ignore a guy, she's just simply not in contact with him because for some reason: a. she senses there's not compatibility there b. she senses that they want different things c. this guy is not going to be able to live up to the same standards that she has for herself around what a relationship should look like. So therefore, the way that she behaves indicates and communicates that she has high value and it inspires people around her to step up and perhaps live bigger or play a bigger more expansive game and the one they're currently playing. She inspires men to become better, to feel like she is a catch because they must step into bigger shoes to capture her. And so, if we get stuck in this realm of thinking, “Well should I play hard-to-get? Should I act disinterested? Should I ignore him?” Well if you're asking those questions, it indicates that there's a part of you that actually doesn't feel like you perhaps deserve the guy that you're with or deserve the guy that you are in relationship with. And that's the place to work and the question that can get you moving in the right direction there is to begin asking: “Who do I need to be to create the type of relationship that I want?” “What types of things do I need to do in my life now to be this magnetic person that inspires men and women to want to be a part of it?” KEY POINT: Your value in a relationship to a man, doesn't come from what you do. It doesn't come from the things that you have or the things that you are doing to him or the things that you are necessarily doing out there in the world. Your value to a man comes in how you feel about yourself, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about life – that is your offering. That is what men get seduced by, that is what men chase. It is the feeling that you have around yourself about who you are in the life that you're living because then when they come into your field like a tuning fork they start to feel that as well. SUMMARY: 1. The key here in summary is to not play games. 2. It's not to play hard-to-get. 3. It's not to act disinterested. 4. It's not to ignore this guy so you have some type of effect on him that communicates this false sense of high value. Because then deep down if you're doing that you'll feel in congruent and you'll feel like if he does start to respond, it will build up more anxiety because you realize you're not being who you truly feel like you are to get him. Don’t forget to download my FREE “5 Secrets to Make Him Commit” << http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-secrets-to-make-him-commit This eBook will walk you through getting the 5 secrets to unlock his heart without manipulation, lies or playing games. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/hoV4RhW3iM4
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3 Keys to Set Good Boundaries in Dating and Relationships
 
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“3 Keys to Set Good Boundaries in Dating and Relationships” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Keys-Boundaries Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ This video is about the Three Steps to Having Good Boundaries. If you’re watching this video, we imagine that maybe you've had issues with boundaries in the past; maybe there's places where people have stepped on you and you haven't made it clear that that's not okay for you, maybe there's places where you've over given or overworked or over compensated and we really want to help you end that behavior today in this video. [00:38] The Importance of Boundaries Boundaries are attractive. It’s important because: 1) You get to feel like you get to be more of yourself in a relationship with somebody when you're able to draw boundaries, 2) You give the other person a gift because they start to feel like they're in a relationship with a real person that has psychological boundaries that are precious, that they are valuing, 3) You give your partner the opportunity to value you and your values as well by being able to assert your boundaries. Often what gets in the way of people who serve in their boundaries is they think that they're putting a burden on the other person by expressing their boundaries. Rather, than seeing that you expressing your boundaries is what gives your partner a sense of safety because they know where they stand with you. [01:21] Step #1: Honor Self Honor Self means that you take your needs, your desires, your wants seriously and that you pay attention to them. Now, what makes this difficult is that often if we don't honor self, we're honoring other over honoring self. And we tend to be moreover there with someone else than over here with myself so the way that honor self is to stay centered in yourself, is to slow it down and to stay close to your own experience. Step number one is Honor Self. You're important and your needs in a situation are as important as anyone else’s. [02:14] Name the Value Step 2 is to Get in Touch with the Value that you are honoring. The value that's important to you, that maybe being violated by the person or the circumstance and if you are attention – if you're used to having your attention over here on the other person this can be kind of difficult is to slow down What is it that I think is important that is currently being violated by the other person? And what this might mean is in order for you to get to a place and name the value you might have to remove yourself from the situation temporarily, you might have to go meditate, or go journal or go take a walk and get in touch with what it is that you see as important that needs to be communicated into the space between the two of you so your partner can see and appreciate that as well. [03:11] Make a Request Step three is to Make a Request. If you're staying close to yourself, you may be noticing the value that's being trespassed or that you want to you know foreground or communicate from, then step three is to make a request the other person. You see what you just directly and simply kind of ask for what it is that you want. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Keys-Boundaries This free webinar contains valuable information for women who want to discover how to end the cycle of relationships that go nowhere without the pain of settling for a guy that you don’t really want. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/uzhxINEhc9E
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Are You Pretty Enough For Him? (here's what REALLY matters...)
 
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“Are You Pretty Enough for Him? (Here's What REALLY Matters...)” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/pretty-enough-3-keys-to-attract-high-quality-man Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Are you pretty enough for him? Feeling not good enough? Wondering what men want or if you are attractive enough? Watch this video on self-esteem, dating and love advice and learn how to make him like you In this video, Clayton and Jack dive deep into a popular question among women and that is, “Am I pretty enough for him?” “Am I good looking enough for him?” If you are asking this question, it can make you feel insecure in a relationship. It can build a lot of anxiety. Thinking that perhaps as you're getting older or as your body's changing, that somehow someone who's younger and better-looking is going to come, swoop in and steal your man away, or that you're not gonna be able to find a guy that you're gonna be able to create long lasting love with. The essence of this is noticing if your inner critic is at play. Noticing that you're probably being hard on yourself. We may vary in physical attractiveness. What's truly attractive to a guy is a woman who owns herself. A woman who owns the ways in which she is beautiful. A woman who magnifies the ways that she's beautiful. A woman who expresses what's real and true. A woman who's growing. A woman who loves her own life. If you want to attract a guy that you want a long-term relationship with a high-quality man, you're gonna want to be with someone that notices beauty and truth at a deeper level. This is about learning how to be more accepting and loving of yourself, because the places that you love and accept yourself, it's much more difficult to feel rejected by anyone else, when you're fully accepting yourself. And, where you're learning how to get embodied that your attractiveness isn't just your face and your makeup, and the ways that you make yourself up. It's how much you embody your truth, your essence, you know the beautiful a delightful way that you've been embodied in a female body. That is going to be much more attractive ultimately to a guy than the superficial way that your face looks. This is about love and acceptance of self. Own your uniqueness. We all have uniqueness. We all have something that life has given us. A way of expressing. A way of thinking about the world. A way of feeling the world. And your uniqueness doesn't need to diminish the uniqueness of the other. SIDE NOTE: Most people who are very physically attractive have a hard time having deeper confidence because most people are reacting and responding to them at a superficial level. They don't actually know who they are inside because they're just like, “Oh, you're super pretty,” and that's what they see. FINAL KEY POINT: If you find yourself asking the question, am I pretty enough? Change that to, how do I make my life more beautiful? How do I see life through a lens that is more beautiful? And by doing that you will step more and your sexiness, more into your power, and men will be intoxicated by it. If this resonated with you, please click the link to join our FREE WEBINAR. 3 Keys to Attract A High-Quality Man: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/pretty-enough-3-keys-to-attract-high-quality-man Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/kgkhVJh0Sao
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The Scary TRUTH about how to get your ex back?
 
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“Want Your Ex Back? Get Yourself Back First!” For Women: FREE 3 Reasons Men Pull Away ebook = https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-reasons-men-leave-book Trying to Get HER Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-no-bs-truths-guide Need coaching? https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ About the Author: Clayton has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. A Certified Coach and NLP Master Practitioner, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients find their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox News magazine, Huffington Post, The Goodmen Project and has his work featured on The View. ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ How to get your ex back? Get yourself back first. The first breakup was initiated by you to yourself in the relationship. It's subtle and it happens to everyone who gets dumped. It's not your fault. But it is your responsibility to get yourself back first before deciding if you want your ex back. FREE 3 Reasons Men Pull Away ebook = https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-reasons-men-leave-book This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/fhOO3Pbt280
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#1 Tip on How to Gain Confidence Fast
 
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“1 Tip on How To Gain Confidence” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ In this video, Clayton touches the topic on how to gain confidence in every area of your life including business, relationships and your own personal confidence. Recently, Clayton talked to one of his coaching clients and this idea of how to be confident that had conviction came up. And what they both unwrapped and unpacked was that confidence is a result of one thing: vision Here’s what they came up with: Vision of where you are going, vision of what you want, a clear dimensionalized vision of your goal. See when you have a clear dimensionalized vision of what it is that you want it provides the boundaries for you to be able to say “no” to the things that are outside of that vision. And the clarity to say “yes” powerfully to the things that are within it. When you have a clear vision of who you want to be in this life, of who you want to be in a relationship, you are better able to say “yes” to the type of people that are in line with that vision and they're going to support it versus saying “no” to the people that are violating those boundaries. See if you don't focus on vision but rather you focus on just confidence, it can get really nebulous. What does confidence even look like? What is even confidence mean? Well we start to look at confidence then as a process or something that we need to emulate from someone else, we look around at confident people. And we think, “Well how do they walk? How do they talk?” It's a great first step: seeing what confidence may look like how kind of how confidence manifests but it does not get to the core. It does not give you access to your own inner confidence. So, to get access to that wellspring-- that resource that is within you, it's important to come up with a vision for your life. A vision for your relationship. A vision for who you want to be ideally and how you want to behave and the things that you want to honor within yourself and the things that you deem important comes with a vision for those things. And let that be your guiding light moving forward because that fuels and unlocks conviction and clarity and the ability to show up in your life with people and in relationships from a place of power and being able to respond to situations rather than react to them. See when I see people that have a lack of confidence it's not that they don't know how to be confident, it's that they don't have a clear vision of where they are going. A clear vision of what they stand for: their values are virtually invisible to them and therefore they become whatever they think they need to become because what they're really honoring is perhaps harm harmony or being accepted by other people. But the confidence comes from taking the idea of being accepted by other people and being liked by other people and having harmonious agreeable conversations and it drops it down the value system. And it puts you honoring a vision of what you want and what you want to create at the very top of the pyramid. So, if you are looking for ways to gain confidence in your own life in any area I want you to consider getting a coach. And if you're interested in hiring me as a coach, feel free to click on the link: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ Send me an email directly and tell me about your situation and we will determine together whether or not it's a fit. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/certifiedcoachn ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/hDCiHD8OIT0
The Number One Secret To Getting Your Ex Back (A Strange Truth...)
 
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“The Number One Secret to Getting Your Ex Back (A Strange Truth...)” Trying to Get HIM Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-reasons-men-leave-book Trying to Get HER Back? Click Here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-no-bs-truths-guide Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton talks about getting back together with somebody after they've broken up with you. He’s also going to talk about how to get him back. How to get her back and not slide into your own personal hell in the process, or in pursuit of recreating a second chance with them. WHY IS THIS VIDEO IMPORTANT? It's important because if you're on YouTube looking for ways to get back together with an ex, or how to get an ex back, you're probably coming across a lot of material that teaches you how to manipulate the person or promises games or tricks to hack their mind. And I'm gonna bet that if you're an intelligent person and you love the person that broke up with you, you don't want to do any of that. You don't want to devolve into somebody that you're not proud of in pursuit of creating a second chance with them. There's not a lot of information out there that teaches you otherwise, so you feel like that might be your only option. It creates this conflict in yourself where you really want them back but you're not sure how to stay connected to yourself and stay connected to your own integrity in pursuit of this goal. This video is an invitation and it's going to outline briefly a way that you can begin to see the situation, that will allow you to be proud of how you're showing up in the crucible of one of the most transformative times in your life. And I say that with complete clarity and conviction that if you are going through a breakup right now and you are desperate to get your partner back, you are going through one of the most transformative times of your life. One of the deepest most important questions that you can ask yourself in this is WHO DO I WANT TO TURN INTO? HOW DO I WANT THIS EXPERIENCE TO CHANGE ME? When clients come to me and they're in this place of pain and they say, “Clayton I really want to get a second chance. How do I become a better person to get them to believe me? How do I get them to respond to me? How do I get them to see that I love them and that things can be different?” The first question I give them or the first question you must ask yourself is this, “WHY DO YOU WANT THEM BACK? WHY DO YOU WANT A SECOND CHANCE?” You've got to be honest here. This question requires you to slow down and think. I can't hold you accountable over video and tell you whether you're saying the truth or not, but you've got to be honest with yourself because this is your own personal journey. If your reason for wanting them back is because you want to save yourself from the deep existential loneliness that now sits in front of you, of not having a partner in your life, if you want them to save you from the guilt and the shame that you feel because you made a mistake and you messed up and now they left you, if you feel that the reason you want them back is because you don't feel like you can do any better and that this might have been your only chance at love moving forward then what do all three of those reasons have in common? WHAT DO ALL THREE OF THOSE HAVE IN COMMON IS FEAR. They're all coming from a place of fear. They're coming from a place of you trying to save yourself, or let's say get your ex your partner to save you from a problem within your heart. They don't want to be the tourniquet to the work that you've got to do on yourself. They don't want to be the band-aid for their work that you've got to do on yourself. So I invite you to slow down and take more pause during your day to sit with this loneliness, sit with the possibility that this relationship is over, and become friends with it. RECAP: The first step is to ask, why do you want them back? The second step is to face the fear. And the third step is then to come from love. If you are interested in getting help with this and in having somebody walk along next to you on this path on this journey into yourself, this transformation, I want you to click the link below. There's one for men and there's one for women. Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101 ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/tMGQLX0n9L0
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7 Ways You (Unknowingly) Betray Your Lover
 
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“7 Ways You (Unknowingly) Betray Your Lover” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, I am going to discuss about the 7 subtle ways you may be betraying your partner in a relationship or marriage. The reason this video is created is because these 7 subtle betrayal that comes up in relationships are really important to make conscious. People do these things unconsciously. Some think that these subtle ways are benign and innocent but when these 7 subtle ways of betrayal begin to stack on another they form really bad habits that can potentially form a gap in your relationship. And ultimately rupturing the connection between and opening the door to larger acts of betrayal. [00:43] The First Subtle Act of Betrayal: Invalidating Your Partner’s Emotions Invalidating emotions can come in different ways but the most common is when your partner comes to you with an emotion like anger, sadness and pain. And rather than listening and fully receiving them and allowing them to experience whatever they’re experiencing, you’re saying that whatever they’re feeling is wrong. [01:33] The Second Subtle Act of Betrayal: Emotionally Dishonest Emotional dishonesty comes in several forms as well. One of which could be faking your climax which is pretty obvious. The next one would be saying that you’re fine when really you’re not and leading them to believe everything’s fine where you got all these boiling emotions underneath. One of the most dangerous ways of emotional dishonesty is when you are being emotionally dishonest about your intentions. [03:11] The Third Subtle Act of Betrayal: Stone Walling or Withdrawing This one is I pulled from a book called The Celestine Prophecy. Stonewalling is often looked as one of the most abusive things that you can do in a relationship because you are severing the connection without communicating. [04:11] The Fourth Subtle Act of Betrayal: Undermining Your Partner in Public What this does is it ruptures the connection between the two of you and it creates this me vs. you mentality rather than this us mentality. You’re no longer on the same team and now there’s cheap shots of going back and forth in front of the public. [05:06] The Fifth Subtle Act of Betrayal: Hiding Money This is more applicable to marriage than dating. Hiding money what I’m lumping under this umbrella is maybe you’ve got a gambling addiction, or you have poor spending habit, or maybe you have a tremendous amount of debt that you’re not communicating that you have to your partner. All of these things leads to not letting your partner breath disgust. [05:39] The Sixth Subtle Act of Betrayal: Complaining About Your Partner to Your Friends Sometimes we need to blow off steam, or we need to have as sounding board at times to process our thoughts but if you are consistently complaining to your friends you actually end up creating a support group of people that only see the worst side of your partner. [06:45] Work with a coach [07:01] The Seventh Subtle Act of Betrayal: Secret Relationships The final betrayal act is if you’ve got secret relationships. This could be with coworkers or an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend or somebody you’ve met where the nature of the relationship is one that you are hiding from your partner. Your partner may not necessarily know about all your relationships maybe they will eventually find out all of them over time. These are the 7 acts of betrayal that can seep into the relationship and cracks the foundation. If you’re not vigilant and conscious of how you are being in a relationship. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/YjRy1jiueZ0
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5 Truths To Help Get Over A Breakup
 
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“5 Truths to Help Get Over a Breakup” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ It's Clayton and this video is for men and women that are going through a breakup right now. And maybe you've got questions on your mind like, “How do I get my ex back?” or, “how do I deal with this breakup?” “How do I fix things?” “How do I move on?” This video is going to uncover some faulty beliefs or let's just say dis-empowering beliefs. But a lot of the clients that I work with are, unconsciously holding onto or sometimes very overtly holding onto, that are stopping them from truly feeling whole and complete again. As I go through the beliefs and outline them, I’m going to offer simple reframes. Reframes that will help you and help your mind, perhaps begin to adopt and create a different story around what's happening in your life. [01:47] I can’t afford to wait another 35 years for love. [02:54] They must not have really loved me: if they were willing to leave me and hurt me this bad. They must not have really loved me and cared about me to cause this much pain. [03:51] It was the PERFECT relationship. [05:25] This is the worst thing that ever happened to me. [07:11] What’s the point of ever-loving again My recommendation to you is to hire some outside help whether it's a therapist whether to coach whether somebody that you trust, get an objective perspective to help guide you and stand next to you and hold a mirror up and show you the parts of yourself and the parts of the situation that you maybe two closer to see. Because what that will do is it will allow you to use everything that's happening and exponentially move your life forward and move into greater integrity with who you are. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/6ilnyhWdCTA
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Simple Trick To Stop Needy & Clingy Behavior
 
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“How to Stop Being Needy & Clingy” Join the FREE WEBINAR THREE KEYS TO BEING RELATIONSHIP READY << https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton is going to talk about neediness, how to stop being insecure, how to stop being clingy in your relationships, and how to start getting this part of your life under control. Not Expressing Need Creates Neediness [01:25] It is a way of thinking that keeps us locked in the state of need which creates neediness in a relationship. If you want to escape this neediness view, if you want to no longer be needy or clingy in a relationship, you must express the need because expressing the need allows that feeling to complete itself. STEPS TO EXPRESSING NEED: #1: By talking about your need, you're beginning to re-frame that you are being able to ask for what you want in a relationship, whether it's reassurance, whether it is more presence, whether it is a deeper listening or just more security, that gives your partner a gift < It allows you to show up as somebody that they now have a roadmap for of like how to love and how perhaps make happy. < It creates this clarity where you both can figure out where you stand with each other – this what allows the intimacy to deepen. #2: If you’re following with a request of what it is that you would like. < A lot of this also has to do with the way in which you approach, the tone, body language and just the intention that you have. And communicating this is also important. < It’s about trusting that maybe the other person, the reason that you're not feeling like you're getting what you want out of the relationship or the interaction is not because of something that's wrong with you or something that they're doing on purpose to try to deny you, it's rather they might just be ignorant. < He has the opportunity or she has the opportunity to be able to step up and meet these needs here. PUTTING PRESSURE ON SOMEBODY: The difference between in terms of communication, what makes it pressure and a burden versus what makes it clean communication that allows the other person the freedom to fulfill on it and maybe feel good about it. < When you are expressing your need, are you asking the person to fulfill it from them being in a place of not being okay? Are you making them not okay because you have a need? HOW DO YOU KEEP THE COMMUNICATION CLEAN? < By ensuring that they are okay, that you are making them okay with your communication which means you're not making assumptions about their intention. CAVEAT: If you still think that it's pressure and you think that he's not wanting to do these things even if you're communicating them clearly, then it might be important to reassess whether you are with someone that you are compatible with. It's better to know the truth and get more connected to the truth because then you can have a conversation around it rather than operating under all of these assumptions and hoping that somehow it figures itself out on its own. Join the FREE WEBINAR THREE KEYS TO BEING RELATIONSHIP READY << https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready The webinar is for women who are wanting to become relationship ready. Women who are at a place in their life where they want to have everything together in their side of fence so she can create the space for a quality partner to walk in her life and for her to be able to navigate it both mentally, psychologically, emotionally and truly have a high-quality partner that she can create a conscious relationship with. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/4YtwoPNKPUw
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The Hidden Truth About How To Deal With A Breakup If You Want Your Ex Back
 
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“The Hidden Truth About How to Deal with A Breakup and Get Your Ex Back” ↓↓↓ WOMEN ↓↓↓ Register for the webinar: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/getting-ex-back-3-keys-webinar ↓↓↓ Men ↓↓↓ Get This Breakup Guide for Free: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/5-no-bs-truths-guide Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ This video is all about the hidden truth behind dealing with the breakup and getting your ex back. Here is the reason why this video of getting an ex back is very important: When we begin to pull back and see the deeper intentions of what's going on here in the mix of these emotions that are coming up, you get the freedom to give you more power, more choice and more clarity about what's going on. So, you can take the right steps moving forward and get the outcome that you want. [02:04] Facing the Fear One is if you can slow down and be with it, the more it gives you a huge kind of capacity for emotional resilience going forward. It allows you to walk in the world knowing how difficult things may happen, but you can handle it. [03:58] They Can’t Trust You When You’re on Emotional Fire… If what you're wanting right now is to get back together with your ex, being able to go through and face singlehood and being with it, is not only wiser decisions that are more grounded, but when you do get back in contact with your ex and you have a conversation, you're not coming from a place of fear. You're not coming from a place where you're on fire emotionally and you're asking her or him yeah to solve that problem for you. [06:57] FEEL the Loss… Oftentimes, you want to reach out and know that they're still open to you and that they're potentially still into you. Because then there's a sense of control that comes back there like, “Oh they're still into me and now I can kind of decide whether I’ll engage or not,” or just the validation of “someone still loves me.” [09:39] Don’t Abandon Yourself The last thing that you need to do is now abandon yourself so staying connected to yourself is saying, “Okay got it. This person may have left but I'm not gonna leave me. I've got my own back.” And this is where you get to learn how to really do that. If you're watching this and you're a woman, here’s a webinar called the Three Keys to Being Relationship Ready. Register here: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/getting-ex-back-3-keys-webinar The spirit of this video is about doing everything that's on your side of the fence, to put yourself in the maximum opportunity to attract the right kind of guy into your life. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://becomingtheone.iljmp.com/1/make-him-miss-you-video This free webinar contains valuable information for women who want to discover how to end the cycle of relationships that go nowhere without the pain of settling for a guy that you don’t really want. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/OP1Sod_BfG8
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3 Little Lies Holding Single Women Back In Dating & Relationships
 
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REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this webinar, Clayton and Jack are going to talk about the 3 lies that women tell themselves when it comes to giving into a relationship and overall just being with a man. The first one that is that You've Got to Love Yourself Before You Can Be Fully in A Relationship. You've got to somehow do all the work on yourself necessary outside of the relationship and then finally when you're whole and complete you can then be worthy to enter into a relationship and have a healthy relationship with a man. When this myth come up in some of the coaching is this idea that for some reason within the relationship learning how to love yourself or seeing the relationship as a growth machine or a territory for them to learn to love themselves is not possible. This severely limits the potential of what a relationship is there for. So, if you're a woman, you can resonate with this myth of thinking that you need to love yourself before you get into a relationship. You might be stopping yourself from finding love prematurely. And perhaps a better way of looking at it, a more effective way of looking at it, would be to realize you can get into a relationship and you can do the work with a partner that is ready to do the work as well. Myth number two is that I Shouldn't Have to Depend on A Man. This is common for women to believe that. Oftentimes there are good reasons for that like you may not have had men show up in your life before. So, you may have a strategy not to depend on men and that kept you safe in the past. But for you to have the kind of fulfilling love relationship, that if you listen to this probably you want, you may need to notice that depending on a man, being in your vulnerability, being open to your man, is a big part of what is going to bring that fulfillment in relationship. So, there's a certain kind of relationship, as possible where you don't depend on a man but I don't think that's the full promise of relationship. It doesn't feel like your man is really getting to be your man. He is getting to fully support you and have your back and in some ways, take care of you. And the third lie that stop women from being able to find the love that they want with men is that they think If I'm Different If I'm A Better Younger If He Saw Me Is More Valuable If I Had Better Communication Skills Then Maybe He Would Change; maybe he would be different. And how this come out over and over again with people that have worked in the past is going after men that are emotionally unavailable or being in a relationship and taking too much responsibility for their partner's character. They’re thinking that if they were different and if they would change, that guy would somehow change his value system and communicate more or be more openly available and more connected to them. It keeps women in relations that are only half alive. It causes them to settle repeatedly over and over again. If you liked what Clayton and Jack talked about in today's video, they have something that everyone’s excited. It is a webinar for single women who are professionals, who've got pretty much everything in their life handled except this one-piece relationship. In the webinar, the focus really is giving you the most value we can in one hour together. And to look at the three biggest pieces that we commonly see, between our coaching practices, that prevent women from finding the fulfilling relationship that they're capable of. If that's of interest to you, there's going to be a link below this video that you can click on. And there'll be multiple times that the webinar will be playing so go ahead and click the link below. REGISTER FOR THE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready This webinar contains valuable information for those who are starting to give up on relationships or those who are successful in every domain in their but can’t seem to figure how this relationship thing works. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/p1wWW_ADf2E
3 Keys To Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
 
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“Toxic Relationships - How To Break Unhealthy Relationship Patterns” Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ Are you in an unhealthy relationship? And how do you know if your current relationship right now is healthy or not? Learn how to a end toxic relationship. I have two questions for you: 1) Do you feel like you’re dating the same person over and over again in multiple relationships but they just have a different face? 2) Do you feel like a lot of the challenges or the dysfunction that comes up in one relationship comes up in a new relationships? If you answer yes to all these questions then you may be in an unhealthy relationship pattern. In this video, I’m going to talk about 3 very specific ways that you can break out of this pattern and free yourself of mediocre relationships and start to date high caliber of individual where there’s going to be love and stability. [00:25] Step 1 Ask Yourself Why [00:41] There’s a reason that you go for the people that you have relationships with. We all search for familiarity because we feel safe. You are allowing familiarity to dictate your choices because you know how to manage it. Once you’re able to identify this pattern, you’ll then be able to break it. Step 2 Notice Inner Dialogues [02:26] Become aware of how you speak to yourself. I don’t mean this that you speak “out loud” but inside your mind. Often the partner that we choose, reflect the vision of how we want to see ourselves. And the way that they speak to us is typically an ongoing dialogue that we have in ourselves. Pay very attention to how you speak to yourself when you’re up against failure and when you accomplish something. If you’re in a series of relationship and you don’t feel good about yourself and when you exit that relationship, try to change how you speak to yourself. Step 3 Consciously Practice Loving Yourself [04:19] A lot of time when people get out of relationships, the fear of being alone and single drives them to get into another relationship. Conquering the fear of being single is absolutely critical in breaking this unhealthy pattern because the person or the rebound is someone that we’re most familiar with. You can be happy being single and you can then choose a relationship that is loving. Master a relationship with yourself. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/l-XRnZefXyA
How To Trust People — Even When You've Been Burned By Relationships Before
 
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“Insecurity vs. Intuition – How to Trust” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR NOW: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Intuition-3-Keys-Webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack unpacks the concept about Insecurity versus Intuition. This video was inspired from the question that came up from a woman who had been in a relationship and she was at this place where she was wondering whether she should open or not. What she was faced was if she should open-up to a guy or not. This is a very common problem. This is about how much can I trust certain things in your life? People who have the best intuition are the ones who most likely don’t listen to them. This is a permission to learn how to trust yourself in a deeper context. And what does that take? How do you know if it's INTUITION or INSECURITY? Learning how to quiet the mind enough to distinguish intuition from insecurity is the challenge. You get a schematic response to a mental anticipation. And you slow it down enough and you notice the inception, you notice the starting point of something. Your intuition. Often the mind will then get in the way of this simple intuition. There's this very quick mental interference. Part of what we're talking about is how to not interfere with your own process too much so that you can just read it more clearly. Intuition is a gut thing. It's a bodily thing. It's not typically a mental thing. Maybe your heart also knows some things to be true, but we would particularly encourage you to pay attention to your body. And intuition tends to have a slower maybe just a little bit more opening quality rather than kind of a contracting and fearful quality. This is an important discernment. Your intuition is almost like your gut knowing. Your body is picking up these different stimuli and algorithms and it's forming into a feeling. Just like the dog just knows who to trust. Doubt Versus Curiosity Doubt is likely to be in the head and it tends to have a closing contracting quality. We think it’s just being smart but being able to distinguish doubt from curiosity is that curiosity has this kind of opening quality to it. If you are a woman and you are interested to take your relationship to the next level and you want to clean up everything in your side of the fence, so you can automatically and easily begin to attract a high quality man into your life where you can be vulnerable and authentic and someone who's going to walk through fire with you and you can walk through fire with them, we've got a webinar: The 3 Keys to Relationship Ready: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/Intuition-3-Keys-Webinar In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/WWJvPosh0Xw
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3 Proven Mindset Shifts To Attract Mr. Right
 
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“3 Proven Mindset Shifts to Attract Mr. Right” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Ways-To-Attract-3-Keys-Webinar Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Clayton and Jack are going to talk about the 3 Proven Ways to Find Mr. Right. In here, they’re going to discuss about 3 behaviors, thoughts or beliefs that are subtle. Like they're not necessarily out there. You wouldn't assume that these things would be blocking you from finding Mr. Right but these are what we see get in the way of most women that are trying to find a guy to settle down with. Problem #1: Having Too High of Standards [0:39] The first problem is Having Too High Standards. This isn't to tell you to lower your standards, but this is to reframe your attention onto an issue that's often beneath this: which is that you're not willing to open your heart. The part of you that has these standards and judgments isn't necessarily the most open, authentic and intimate expression of your heart. So, if you’re going around judging them and of course if you're judging men, you're never gonna feel that loving towards them. For a guy to want to connect with you more deeply at some level, he's got to feel your love. The way to navigate this differently is to be being claimable – this means that you are in your heart. You're in your feminine vulnerability: she's willing to open and be vulnerable and trust a man, rather than unconsciously when you say you have too high standards like you’re pushing a man away. You're in a stance of rejection towards that man. Problem #2: “I’ll Leave You Before You Leave Me” [03:04] The second point is this statement (it’s a hidden statement and you may be able to identify it) It's “I'll leave you before you leave me.” How this shows up is not really being fully vulnerable, fully open in the relationship – where the pain of being broken up with, the pain of being rejected is so much so that it's almost like you've got this adverse reaction to the idea of being broken up with or being rejected so you're preemptively breaking up or rejecting people first. You're looking for reasons why they're not good enough. And what that does is, whether you are speaking it out loud or not, the man feels energetically rejected by you even if he's a good guy. KEY NOTE: When a guy feels rejected it's very hard for him to even show up and show you who he really is because it's just too dangerous, it's too much of a risk for him. Problem #3: Keeping Unqualified Men as Romantic Interest [04:39] The third problem that women run into when they're trying to find Mr. Right is that they're keeping other guys in their life and who they have a more than friendship connection. It could be that even if you've never been explicitly romantic or physical with a guy that he is into you. But that you keep him in close enough proximity. What it ultimately can lead to is a situation where it makes it harder for Mr. Right to fully feel safe to claim you. As you hear Jack and Clayton talking about these things you might be wondering, “Okay well this sounds great and how do I do it? We have set out to really solve and create answers to these questions. One of the ways to get started is to join our live webinar that they are offering. It's called Three Keys to Becoming Relationship Ready or Three Keys to Attract a High-Quality Men. Click on the link and you can pick a time that works for you: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Ways-To-Attract-3-Keys-Webinar It's very potent. It's real. There’s no gimmicks or tricks. If you've been with us through any of these videos, you'll know that we're trying to get to the heart of the matter in an open honest authentic way. This content is rich and powerful so if you join us is 90 minutes is action-packed. You're gonna want to shut the world out just focus up because you have the possibility of a breakthrough through this webinar and it's completely free. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-Ways-To-Attract-3-Keys-Webinar This free webinar contains valuable information for women who want to discover how to end the cycle of relationships that go nowhere without the pain of settling for a guy that you don’t really want. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/lXN3tV5b79g
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THIS Stops 99.9% Of Men From Falling In Love (3 Blocks To Him Falling For You...)
 
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“THIS Stops 99.9% Of Men From Falling In Love (3 Blocks To Him Falling For You...))” REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-blocks-to-love-3keys-webinar ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Jack and Clayton are going be talking about the 3 blocks that are stopping him from falling in love. DISCLAIMER: Clayton and Jack are not making this to put any blame or shame on your side of the fence. The point of this video is to help you become conscious of the things that you may unconsciously be doing that are getting in the way of a deep intimate bond from forming between the two of you. As they go through these three blocks, they’re also going to give you a quick solution and a way through the block so that you can foster greater intimacy with the man that you're with. There is an equally long list of things that men are doing and blocking women from falling in love with them but since you're most likely a woman watching this video, they want to focus on the things that you can do on your side of the fence. [00:57] Block #1: Not Supporting His Autonomy The first block is not supporting his autonomy. Before you get into relationship with a guy, maybe you are in relationship with a guy, maybe you're dating, or maybe a single, but before you get into relationship with a guy, he has a life. He has things that he likes to do hobbies. He's, perhaps, working hard on his mission or his career and he's gonna want to continue to do that whilst he's in relationship with you. Oftentimes as a man your direction in life is the most important thing to you, so what we're encouraging you to do is to not go up against that; is to not take it personally that he might have some needs for autonomy. And by the way, you have them too whether you're acknowledging them or not. So, sometimes this gets labeled as like being high maintenance. If you're high maintenance, you're pressuring him into things you’re cajoling him, you perhaps beating up on him a little bit, criticizing him, trying to make him spend more time with each other, make him put more attention on you. And it's possible to have both. It's possible for a guy to be in his autonomy focusing on things that are a value to him and giving you his undivided presence and coming from a place of where he or she wants to do that. [03:36] Block #2: You Are in Competition with Him The second block that stopping him from falling in love is if you are in competition with him. What does that mean to be in competition with your partner? It can show up in a number of different facets – in terms of intelligence, maybe you're thinking that you need to be as intelligent as your partner; maybe you are thinking you need to be as good-looking as your partner; maybe you're thinking that you need to make as much money as them; or, perhaps you're competing with them physically, or athletically, or competing socially. All these things what ends up happening is it creates a win-lose scenario in your relationship. KEY POINT: In a relationship, a partnership is about aligning yourselves on the same team. In a competition in many ways is putting the two of you on the opposite sides. [06:03] Block #3: Being Too Low Maintenance The third block that you can remove from having him fall in love with you is the inverse of point one. So, point one we're talking about kind of being high maintenance so to speak, this point is about being low maintenance. And when we say being too low maintenance is you're actually not honoring yourself. You're disavowing your needs. You're not claiming your desires. You're not having your voice in the relationship. If this has been interesting to you then you're gonna want to check out a webinar that we're running. You can click the link below this video, and you can find a time in your time zone that works for you. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-blocks-to-love-3keys-webinar Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/ZtlCrJ3BItI
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Getting "Triggered" In Your Relationship? Watch this...
 
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“Dealing With Emotional Triggers In Relationships” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” << http://goo.gl/FqioIH Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Know more about Jack Butler, The Conscious Change Agent: http://beingjackbutler.com/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video, Jack Butler and I are going to discuss about emotional triggers in intimate relationships. [00:22] Emotional Trigger is when somebody does something and rather responding to them consciously there’s are action that occurs within you. Typically if you are triggered you are in a place where you have lost some consciousness. How would you know if you’re being triggered? [02:35] There will be physiological correlates. If you are triggered emotionally, here are some of the things that will be observed: 1. Physically you’re going to be breathing more rapidly. 2. Attention pattern is narrowed. 3. Feel stressed 4. Having an inner-talk [06:15] Counter-trigger: It is when you are being triggered in response to the other person’s trigger. A lot of us have to learn how to deal with difficult emotions. The 3 Principal Emotions: 1: Anger 2. Fear 3. Shame Typically, one of those would be really difficult for us to deal. So rather than react directly to the other person, you let your self-talk narrate you with what is going on. When you feel like you’re being attacked, you have the option to choose how you react to that person. In relationships when faced with these triggers, here are some strategies you can do: 1: Acknowledge it to myself that I am being triggered. 2. I acknowledge that to your partner as well. 3. As a partner who wants the best of the relationship and who isn’t being triggered, you can help regulate the other’s emotions. 4. Or if it isn’t available, you can consciously disengage. The more awareness and consciousness we can bring into these areas in our life where seem to go on auto-pilot, the more power and choice we can show up in every area of our life including relationships. Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/8-secrets/ This ebook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/gbVqSQURmos
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Keys To Attracting Men You Can Trust
 
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“Keys to Attracting Men You Can Trust” This is part 2 of the interview series I did with Antia Boyd. Part 1 Interview: https://youtu.be/ykGZszGl_YY Part 3 Interview: https://youtu.be/PCb21wftKtw ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ QUESTION: What can a woman do to now shift that, maybe not necessarily for this particular man, but to start attracting man that not only she can trust but also who trusts themselves? KEY POINTS: *** Here are three categories, and we can touch on each one and hopefully point in the direction that can get people to begin moving towards this on the path. It’s just something to begin contemplating looking at in your own life just perhaps beginning to open some of these distinctions and notice what you can start to live in to more fully. Point 1: being able to trust in yourself Point 2: being able to start to trust men Point 3: being able to trust in life * All of these happen concurrently but we can talk about each one of them and what that begins to look like because when you're able to trust himself you're able to trust in him and you're able to trust in life, a relationship has oil on it at that point things start to move into place. * It STARTS in being able to trust yourself. One way that women and men don't actually trust themselves is that the first thing they do – the first way that they actually betray themselves and break trust with themselves – is by trying to be what someone else wants. Because they're not actually trusting themselves that they are good enough to be good enough for the other person. They are not trusting their value if they were to show up fully which say their needs, their wants, their boundaries, or the things that they really want, and what ends up happening is because they're not voicing those things is they may start to contort who they are and notice how the other person responds and try to be in chameleon whatever it is they think the other person wants so they can be that. And right there, they've created the first violation in themselves which is they're not trusting in themselves now. Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/MEINarPJgVM
5 Strange Reasons You Are Picking Emotionally Unavailable Men
 
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REGISTER FOR THE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready Join The New Facebook Community to get your questions answered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2110297722521237/ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In today's video, Clayton and Jack are going to be talking about Five Reasons You Keep Picking Emotionally Unavailable Men. The first reason is that You Don't Want to Be Vulnerable. Oftentimes you don't want to be vulnerable because it's hurting you in the past. There are good reasons it seems not to be vulnerable. But if you want an emotionally fulfilling relationship you can't have that without emotional vulnerability so this is important. You may find that you don't want to depend on a man that that has been painful in the past. If you don't depend on a man, there's a way that he can't fully be your man. There's a level of commitment and authenticity and vulnerability that isn't there. And those things are all key to finding fulfillment. The impact of not allowing yourself to depend on a man is if a man doesn't feel trusted by you. And when a man doesn't feel trusted, that tickles one of the deepest kind of insecurities that of the masculine essence or the masculine energy has when relating to a woman who is not feeling trusted. The second reason that women keep attracting emotionally unavailable men is that Their Dad Was Emotionally Unavailable. The patterns that got set up in early childhood, or it might be called Object Relations, is that dad's not available. “Dad doesn't really make me feel like a princess.” “Dad doesn't come to me when I'm sad or sorrowful or I need support.” So, I kind of get used to a certain sort of self-soothing or to maybe soothing or regulating with my girlfriends or with my mother but I'm not used to receiving that from the masculine. And so, when I'm going out in the world, even if the person looks very different like there's a completely different career than dad, the actual underlying archetype is kind of similar because we're kind of playing roles. He's unavailable, I'm sort of available but don't have to be fully available because he's unavailable. And that's what's got set up in childhood. The third reason that women pick emotionally unavailable men is because They Secretly Feel Like They Don't Deserve It. They don't feel like they deserve the intimacy that a completely connected relationship would give them. Maybe they don't feel like they deserve the attention, they don't need feel like they need or deserve the presence of their man. And what ends up happening is they pick partners that are at that kind of confirm the level of self-esteem they have about themselves because like predictable. It's safe even though it is maybe not surviving it allows less and know where they stand within that roleplay. So, in hot and number four we have Women's Desire to Be with A Smart Guy and A Belief That a Smart Guy Won't Be Emotionally Available. There are a lot of smart men, geeky men and powerful men who are not emotionally available. And I don't think that women in our generation or at this time of evolution have to actually make that choice. That there are a lot of smart men, intelligent men and powerful men who are also emotionally available… The fifth reason is A Woman Is Choosing Safety in Security Over Love and Connection. Oftentimes if you're picking a partner that's extremely smart, that is well off, that is building an empire or really connect with their purpose and is not emotionally unavailable. There's a certain sense of security that can come with that. And the reason this is important to bring up is because as we become aware of the real reason why we might be getting into relationship, we can then have the power to choose differently moving forward. REGISTER FOR THE WEBINAR: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready This webinar contains valuable information for those who are starting to give up on relationships or those who are successful in every domain in their but can’t seem to figure how this relationship thing works. In your corner, Clayton Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching REGISTER FOR A 1:1 COACHING: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/coaching-application/ FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/ ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/ VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: ➜ https://youtu.be/aPWhsR604QQ
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